Saturday, February 9, 2013

Iyanla Vanzant: 7 Things You Don't Know About the Power You've Always Had

This post is a powerful reminder of who we are. It also speaks to my spirit especially after my blog post Be Determined.  I did not write the below article but felt a need to share. Be encouarged and be Blessed.

Iyanla Vanzant: 7 Things You Don't Know About the Power You've Always Had

The author and relationship expert offers her insights on the one strength every person in the world possesses.
From: Lesson 25: You've Always Had the Power
Iyanla Vanzant
Photo: George Burns © Harpo Inc.
Many of us think that our power is a tool or a weapon, but, in fact, power is a state of being, the way you see, hold and handle yourself in the world that then determines your experiences. The external world can only respond to the way you hold and handle yourself internally. If you show up as weak, broken, confused and dazed, the world is going to respond to you that way. If you show up as confident, kind, compassionate and loving, then the world is going to respond to you that way.

This is why we have got to understand that you do not have to do anything to have power. That said, there are some surprises when it comes to your power, ones that, if understood, can improve your ability to tap into it:

1. Power is your birthright. Your power goes back to something very simple.

At the highest spiritual level, you are made in the image and the likeness of the creator—whatever you call that creator—the source of life, the source of all things. You are one with that source—the same source that makes trees, tornadoes, sunshine, the ocean, the mountains, people. You have the same capacity, the same inherent light and the ability to create. This is your birthright. You were born with power. No one can take it away.

2. The only thing that can diminish your power is your belief that you do not have it. Repeat this to yourself. Every day.

3. Gold stars do not affirm your power. The way life is designed, we are programmed, conditioned and educated out of our power because we have been programmed, conditioned and educated to please others, to do what others say and to do what others are doing. Here's my classic story: When I went to school, they used to have a board where, if you did your work well, you got a star. There were gold stars, silver stars, green stars, blue stars, red stars. Now, red stars were not good stars. But at least you got a star. Well, when it came to writing, I could never get that little hook on that a. I just couldn't do it. I don't know why. I always got green stars: great effort, just not perfect. It confirmed my belief that I wasn't good enough because I couldn't do what somebody else could. What I know now is that comparing ourselves to others is an act of self-violence, as is living up to the expectation of others or not listening to your gut. These acts are about other people. These acts are all about external validation. Power is you. Power is standing up as your true self.

4. Power is a habit. Everything we do as human beings is a habit. I've heard that it only takes 40 repetitions to install a habit. Most of us have created a habit of being disempowered: We don't ask for this, don't do that, don't say this, don't say that. Instead, we must create a habit that reinforces our personal power. Part of this requires a daily spiritual practice. We nourish our bodies. We nourish our minds. Do we nourish our spirits? The way to remain connected to, conscious of and in alignment with our power is to remain connected to, conscious of and aligned with our source. That can be through mediation, journaling or stillness. We want to empty the mind as often as possible. We want to listen to that still, small voice that's within.

5. Power is most accessible in your worst times, not your best. When your plane crashes and you wake up in the middle of the desert with no food and no water, it doesn't matter how much money you have, how much education you have or how many friends you have. The great philosopher Whitney Houston, whom I love, sings a song: I didn't know my own strength. I crashed down, and I tumbled, but I did not crumble. I never knew my own strength. Very often, when the things that we lean on for strength—the marriage, the money, the image, the name—are gone, that's when we discover our power.

6. It's okay to forget your power. We're all going to have our moments when we get angry, upset, afraid—when we think we just can't do it. But how long do you stay there? How long do you allow the critical voice in your head to condemn you for your choices? How long will you stay in conflict and confusion, or are you able to focus your attention on something greater, grander, bigger, more loving, more powerful? It's about your recovery time. How long do you stay in your humanness before you slip back into your divinity? The ability to make that shift is the sign of being in touch with your power.

7. With power comes the chance for real connection. When you're really standing in your power, every moment becomes an opportunity to share more of who you are with others. If they are being negative, you don't avoid them. Because this is when you might talk with them in a different way, to respond with compassion or love, to find out why they are in that place, or, if they're being hurtful, to respond without being defensive. To simply say: "That is not acceptable in my space. That is not acceptable for who I am." Our experiences in life are designed to give us the ability to grow in our awareness of our personal power. Our choices, then, are about supporting the natural unfolding of that power.

Iyanla Vanzant's most recent book is Peace from Broken Pieces (Smiley Books).

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Be Deliberate

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I appreciate the silence of the early mornings. No television, no noise accept for the occasional car driving past, the slight hum of the refrigerator I value silence. Watching the sun rise taking in all that God has done. Silence. Peace. With working in a call center, the duties are rewarding but the constant chatter that goes on can be enough to cause one to stand on top of their desk and shout, SHUT UP WILL YOU!! Now that would not be a nice thing to do though I could see myself doing just that, in my Daffy Duck voice. I often wonder why it is hard for many to sit still, be silent and just hear, nothing. Or, hear the sound of their own heart beat. Hear the sound of the blood running through their veins. Now I know that is not possible but, what if.

I love the morning time because this is my time to pull it all together and ask God that one question, what today Lord? It is my time to sit and offer the Lord my requests, forgive me and restore me. It is also a time for me to put my life in prospective and focus on the vision. The vision God has instilled in me that I so haphazardly at times fail to acknowledge fully.  In doing so, I quiet my spirit, I quiet my soul. Peace. 

To fully understand our walk and duty as Gods children, we must deliberately take a time out and silence the chaos that we allow and create, some we have no choice but to be partakers of. Though God can speak at anytime and in any situation. He values being able to know you are waiting for Him to speak, seeking Him in silent meditation, expecting Him.  What an awesome God who can do all things and in all ways.  

Psalm 37 is one of many examples of the requirement God places on His children. Such as stated in the 7th verse, Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devises to pass.  The first four words says it all, rest in the Lord. This is one of the many reasons I love being silent. My strength is renewed and my spirit is refreshed. My open closet.  That peace really can only come from God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Ghost.  

I encourage those of you who took the time to read this blog, to take a step back from your normalcy and step into God's peace. Seek Him and expect Him. He is waiting for you with open arms and a love that will never die. He is expecting you. He will refresh you, restore you and give you the desires of your heart. 

Be deliberate.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Spirits Voice

Winds blow, trees wave and the ground shakes all in an effort to get you to pay attention to God's purpose.

Are you listening?