Friday, December 6, 2013

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Tis the season to rejoice, remember, reflect and be grateful for all tha the Lord has done and will do in your life.  I pray that this season will bring you many new adventures. Remember the reason for the season, Jesus.

I will be taking a short break and will resume posting uplifting messages starting January 2014.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Your Love Is King by Addrienne Thompson

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It is with wonderful pleasure that I share with you a wonderful read. I had the pleasure of coming across this new writer for me and I tell you her work draws in from page 1. I read three of her books in one, that's how good they are. Check her out I guarantee you will not be disappointed.  Be blessed and enjoy.
Divorced nurse and single mom, Marli Meadows, finds herself stuck in a rut. She’s tired of her life and decides to leave it behind and embark on a search for change. What she finds instead, is love.

From Chapter One: “You’re Not the Man

I rolled over in the bed after a short nap, opened my eyes, and nearly jumped out of my skin. For a brief moment, I’d forgotten that Darius was lying next to me. The sight of him lying there asleep with his mouth wide open startled me.
I eyed him with disgust as I tried to ease out of bed undetected. I slid and slid until my feet finally reached the floor, then I tiptoed through the cluttered efficiency apartment into the bathroom. I peered into the smudged mirror and wondered to myself, What are you doing, Marli Meadows? Why are you here with him? I shook my head as if the mere action could erase my relationship with Darius Cotton right out of my life.
I squatted over the toilet and relieved myself, afraid to sit on the seat. Knowing Darius, there was no telling how many other butts had been on that seat. I turned the water in the faucet on to a slow trickle, still not wanting to awaken Darius, and washed my hands. I dried them with some toilet paper and then quickly pulled my underwear and work uniform back on and slowly opened the creaky bathroom door.
I exited the bathroom and found Darius sitting on the side of the bed, lighting up a blunt. Dang! I thought, if I don’t get out of here quick, I’ll be smelling just like that stuff and probably get a contact high. It’d be my luck for them to pop up with a random drug test at work and that crap’ll show up.
“You leaving, baby?” he grunted between drags. He rubbed his hand across his bare chest and stretched. I eyed his nakedness as I walked back into the room.
“Yeah, it’s already eleven. I gotta go home and get some rest for work tonight,” I answered as I gathered up my purse and slipped on my shoes.
With a lopsided grin on his face, he revealed two rows of shiny gold teeth and said, “Yeah, cause you know if you stay here you gon’ have to put in some more work, huh?”
Ugh, I thought. “Yeah, well, I’ll talk to you later, Darius.”
“A’ight, come give me a kiss, boo.”
I swallowed hard. I know this sounds strange considering the fact that I’d just had sex with him, but the thought of kissing him really didn’t appeal to me. It took all I had in me to walk over to him, bend over, and plant a kiss on his dark lips.
He swatted my butt. “A’ight girl, I’ll holla at you later. Don’t work too hard tonight.”
I nodded. “I won’t. Bye, Darius.”
“Bye, Mar-lay.”
I shook my head as I closed the door behind me. We’d been “seeing” each other for nearly two years, and he still mispronounced my name. Well, it was either that or he was just so country that it sounded like he was mispronouncing it.  Whichever was the case, it was irritating.
I walked down the steep stairs from Darius’s apartment out onto the parking lot.  I unlocked and then climbed into my Toyota Camry which was parked right next to Darius’s souped-up Chevy Caprice. I rolled my eyes at the repeated Louis Vuitton logos covering his car. I backed out of my space and glanced at his license plate which read, SMOKONE. I sighed as I pulled off the lot.

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Adrienne Thompson has worn many titles in her lifetime–from teenage mother to teenage wife to divorcee to registered nurse to author. This mother of two young adults and one teenager currently resides in Arkansas with her daughter where she writes and publishes her stories full time.
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Saturday, November 23, 2013


Psalm 100:4 NLT - Enter his gates with thanksgiving, go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and bless his name.

This is the time of the year when many are sharing what they are thankful for. The Philippines was just hit with a typhoon and the midwest devostated by at least 80 tornadoes. Yes, there is much we all should be thankful for. Today and everyday not just a certain time of the year. Our lives are not our own and because we do not know what tomorrow holds, everday that we are blessed to breath air we should give thanks.

I am lining my thoughts up with the creator. I am releasing all that I have no control over and increasing my praise. We only have this one life and it is up to us what we do with it, waste our time on and allow to consume us.

Why not shift your focus and increase your praise? Why not focus more on others tgen yourself?

Psalm 100:5 NLT - For the Lord is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

Be thankful today and everyday.

Saturday, November 9, 2013

All Or Nothing

It came to me this morning that we are missjng the mark.  We must use the whole word of God and not just parts of it that we feel most comfortable with. We must be obedient to the full gospel in order for our blessings to be fully realized.

Isasih 1:19 KJV - If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land. Is it clear?

Lets look at this same verse in the New Living Translation which says - If you will obey me and let me help you, then you will have plenty to eat. Ummmmm.

I don't know about you but I want to have plenty of Gods blessings.  Everyday we as Gods children his foot soldiers are to be doing the hard work in building the kingdom of God.  We are to witness to the broken and the lost. We are to share the good news and the love of Christ. Share with them that they are loved and there is rest to be found for their soul. Matthew chapter 11 talks about that rest. I wonder what it would be like to see this work maifested. I wonder how much darkness would be present if we all were doing just what God said to do.

Though we cannot eradicate sin and darkness, broken spirits or sin, God can.  We cannot save anyones soul, God can. I am saddened by the carelessness of many who I hear profess Christ but are not living or acting Christlike.

My prayer is that we all come to the tealization that God is real and He will not let His word return to Him void.eaning, He will do jist what He said.

Friday, November 1, 2013

Being Humble Being Blessed

For the past week I have been sick as all get out. I have had colds and flus but this was different. I really can not put my finger on it. I just feel a change. For the past week I have slept, read and coughed. I have fussed at invisible people in my room. I was not delusional, I just spoke into the atmosphere what  I felt. Being frustraighted with the aches, pains, coughing, sweating and just being totally uncomfortable, I spoke verbally healing, help, direction and most all provison. God answered. I was reminded that He is God. I was humbled by the blessing brought to me my someone I did not expect but, thats God. He sends is best soldiers to do his best work. He also sends the weakest too. You see each of us no matter our abilities have a gift and not using that gift is in disobedience to God who gave us the gift. It does not take much. It does not take great effort. We just have to use what was already instilled in us  by the Great Creator.

1 Peter 3:8-12 NLT - Finally, all of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy towards each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds. Don't repay evil for evil. dont retaliate when people say unkind things about you. Instaed, pay them bak with a blessing. That is what God wants you to do, and h  will bless you for it. For the scriotures say: If you want  happy life and goidvdays, keep your tongue from speaking evil, and keep your lips from telling lies. Turn away from evil and do good. Work hard at living in peace with others. The eyes o  the Lord watch ober those who do right, and his ears are open to their prayers. But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil.

Today and everyday, show kindness to others. Share your smile, a hello, a have a good day with someone. You never know how this will affect the receiver. Now get to it. Make a phone call, send a physicsl card in the mail to someone. Do a "I just stopped by" drive by.

Your Father is watching to see what you do with His gifts.

Lord Bless

Friday, October 18, 2013

Food For Thought Friday

Reflection - Too many live life in emotions. They make choices with emotions. They act out in emotions.  Life is not what happens to you its how you react.  If you are having outbursts of emotion, frustration and anger maybe its time you looked with in and resolve to understand that the energy you put in the atmosphere will come back to you.  I am always going within to see that God alone has everything under control. I evaluate me everyday. I make changes everyday. I will continue to until.

Life is the result of the choices and actions  made or, the lack of those choices and actions.  It is no ones fault or responsiblity. accept that responsibility. Own it, realize it and improve. Know better, do better  and knowing better, the doing better should be evident and visual. 
Be thankful, be grateful, be humble and loose ego, pride and self centeredness.  No one is impressed, not even God. Especially God.

Uh oh, lunch time is over.
Be Blessed...

Friday, October 11, 2013

How Are You Praying

How Are You Praying?
Matthew chapter 6 is not your usual chapter.  This is where Jesus spoke the parable on prayer and how to pray.  I don’t know about you, but I listen closely too many in leadership, those who stand before the masses and offer up praise and thanksgiving to our Lord and Savior or so I thought it to be praise and thanksgiving.  In my study of Gods word, I notice much about myself and how I approach God. I also notice more closely how others approach God.  I am a  major thinker. My head should have exploded years ago due to my ability to think and process, process and think.  I have even been called mega brain. I evaluate but not judge others. Why? Because a parent such as our Father God deserves respect.  He may not be our physical parent but He is our spiritual Parent.  He is Lord of Lords. He is King of Kings. He is the great I Am, need I say more?  
We Christians have fallen off the grid with the new wave Christianity. We have become lazy and inconsiderate in many ways and our prayers show it.  Many have become so consumed with the negatives of the world, there is no praise and honor only begging and babbling, complaining and whining. Babbling.  This brings me to my point on Prayer.  Turn to your bible either a physical bible which I prefer or wireless to Matthew chapter 6 and read it. Now, read it again. Read it again.  Repetition is good, let’s read that one more time, slowly.
I encourage you to take this prayer in daily and often. Lets get back to the basics.  Let’s listen more to God and allow the Holy Spirit to guide. Take time to settle your thoughts and reduce the busyness you have allowed and also created, and spend quality time with God.  Give Him your undivided attention.  Speak to him with Grace and He will show you more mercy.  Humble yourselves before the Lord. Go into your closet and pray like this:
Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever.

Thursday, October 10, 2013

The Battle Is Not Mine Its The Lord

This past year has been hard, I could pull my hair out and snatch some people up. Just being honest. . My emotions go up and they go way down. I may not be at my best most days but I enjoy the good days I am blessed with. But God. But God. I know all things happen for a reason and I also know God is in control no matter what. I may be down but I am not out of the game . Satan will have to work har...der if he is trying sideline me. It will not happen in the name of Jesus. I rebuke you satan in the name of all mighty JESUS.. I plead the blood of Jesus over every attack seen and unseen. I pray the blood of Jesus over my sons Sean Pratt and Marcus Pratt . Saten is trying to destroy families, get behind us saten you are NOT welcome here. I plead the blood of Jesus over all my family members from the youngest to the oldest and friends. And I pray restoration for all of my enemies seen an unseen.

This to will pass and I HAVE the victory. Victory IS MINE.

Its spiritual warfare people, post up and stand firm.

You just don't know. My Father is huge. Glory!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, October 7, 2013

A Visitor

It was 5:15 am dark and wet. I had a visitor this morning. Very nice, comforting and warm.
Letting me know that everything will be just fine and that I don't have to try and carry the load because its already taken care of.

Touched my heart speaking to me, it was like music to my ears. It took everything within me to not drive faster than the required 60 miles an hour, I could not contain my emotion. With tears streaming down my face my heart was full of humility that he would grant me his presence.

All I could do was hold on to the steering whell and ride, there was nothing I could.
I was not afraid....

I had a visitor this morning and his name was, Jesus.

When you can admit to God that you are lost without him, that you are a broken vessle, he sees. When you can say Lord take the wheel, he is ready and able. When you can say no matter what Lord, I will always lift your name on high and share your words with others, he rejoices.

I am lost with Him, are you? Can you admit that without God you would be lost also? Can you humbly say Lord here I am use me? I do, I did and no mattter my flaw He knows it already. Thank you Lord for Jesus.

Praising Him!!!!!!!!!


Turning your life over to Christ means change. It means you strive daily to live your life Christ like. It means your old man is dead and you become a new creation. Sins forgiven. I find it daunting when I hear many say I am still a baby christian after many years of Sunday services, Bible studies, and prayer meetings. Still clubbing, drinking, having sex outside of marriage and the... list goes on. It means we have made a choice to turn away from a life that appears to have brought us to Christ in the first place but yet, many have not fully committed by choice.

Crying the same cry Sunday after Sunday. Going to the alter for the same pains of life one chooses to participate in. Only praying when a disaster stricks. Only calling on God when things are in an upheaval. If God knocked on your door or called your number, would you be ready, would you answer the call. I am in no way saying we must be perfect, that will never happen but what I am saying is simple, either your in or your out, it is like straddling the fence.

The word of God tells us in Luke 16:13 NLT- No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other, or be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. The King James Version in this same verse uses mammon instead of money. The meaning is the same. Choose life or death.

Rambling thoughts.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

A National Day Of Prayer-Wake Up

I am blessed to be a humanitarian. Being part of a Christian organization known as World Vision is a placement provided by God. Once a year we shut down operations and gather for a day of prayer and reflection. Acknowledging all that God has blessed us to do for the poor around the world and praising Him for all that He will do.

Millions do not have clean water or basic healthcare.  Close your eyes for a moment and imagine you or your children drinking muddy and diseased water because there is nothing else. Imagine your children starving to death and you can do nothing. Not a good feeling is it? This is the work World Vision has been doing since 1952 when the company was founded by the late Bob Pierce. We are the voice for the voiceless. We are digging wells, providing much needed healthcare and much much more.

We as Americans living in America are spoiled to the core with all of the benefits we have at our disposal. Today millions are in an uproar over the government shut down, its day 5.  I don't know about you but I am dusgusted about it. I have friends affected along with many who are not receiving pay for their day honest work. I watch the news and listen and it just blows my mind that we, the American people are missing the mark. We are missing it becuase we have allowed this good life to take us further away from the mission Jesus Christ died for. Our hearts should be broken for the same things that broke the heart of Jesus.   We should be doing at least one thing if not many things to make this world a better place fir thise who will follow.  We should be aware of our own footprint on this already crowded echo system. We should care more for our elderly men and woman and are you aware of the many who are stuck in nursing homes forgotten? America.

This national day of prayer for me was very different than the past I have participated in.  The diiference is that I have even morei compassion for the lost. I pray more for others than myself. I no longer see what is but what can be if we just come together and do our part for the good. I no longer wait for a particular month to get here to celebrate black history or use the good china. I no longer fret about how many days it is before it is the weekend. No, I live now and on purpose one day at a time. We all could use a major wake up call while we and our loved ones are alive, and not wait until someone has passed on. I have always been a thinker and on this day, I thought deeper. I have always cared for other's, I am caring more.

We must pray and work. We must speak up and out for the just causes. We must not allow our children to continue to be statistics. We do have choices, are you using yours?

For information on World Vision visit

Lord Bless

Sunday, September 29, 2013


Today the weather has been active. Wind, rain, and flooded street corners.  I have come to learn that I do not like driving in bad weather. I do however, like to see the changes in the season.  I will miss the summer sun.  I am thankful to God for His handy work.  The rain was coming down so hard it caused me to reflect on the great flood. God told Noah to build an ark. Take the animals two by two of every kind. He washed away the mess and the people who helped in the mess. That is how I see rain. Washing away, cleaning the air and feeding the earth in preperation for newness.

We can learn something from rain. We too can cleanse our souls in preperation for new. This is the time to gather, to clean out, and to refresh. Get ready for a new season. What ever that means for you, do it. Evaluate where you are and where you wish to be. Do one thing that will get you closer to it, what ever your it is. 

Seek God and be willing to be prepared for greatness. 

Monday, September 23, 2013

Lost Without You

Lost Without You Lord – 9-23-2013

The past few years have been a whirlwind for me physically and emotionally. Arthritis and degenerative disk disease have taken over my life.  Bulging disks, swelling, inflammation along with in some cases the inability to walk and move freely.  On any given day my pain level can range from 2 which I love to infinity (intolerable) and with that will come the increase of blood pressure readings, up and down emotions and the inability to focus.  Your body cannot handle certain things and when attacked, your body will counter attack any invasion that is foreign.  Chronic pain I am learning can zap the life right out of you. Millions face this crisis daily using medication just to be able to get through the day, in some cases not finding relief.  Many commit suicide because of the inability to cope and not wanting to be a burden on anyone.  Family and friends think most times it’s made up. Well I am here to tell you with a loud shout, No it is not and anyone who is dealing with chronic pain listen to me, I understand what you face. I understand your emotions and your willingness to give up. Also, listen to this, don’t give up and don’t give in.    In Job chapter 2:7-8 satan attacked Job with boils and sores from the soles of his feet to the top of his head. In verse 8, Job took a tool to scrape the sores because the pain became so bad.  Now, I don’t know about you but being in pain and then inflicting more pain to prevent the pain does not seem like a solution, I am wimpy wimpy wimpy.   As you continue to read in chapter 2 you will see where Jobs wife poked at him saying, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” From what she said to her husband do you think she really meant it or is she also a victim of the pain that was inflicted on Job? I believe she was conflicted due to the loss of her home, children and lively hood and now she is watching her husband suffer.  

Now jump the Job chapter 42 and you will see the Job was restored in all ways and he lived a long life full of God grace.   God is almighty and He knows exactly what His children face. The word of God does say in Psalm 37:23 “the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and He delights in his way.   I come to tell you that you are not alone. I come to tell you that this too shall pass and in the passing you will come to learn more about your endurance, your integrity and your faith.  Though you may feel that there is no hope and you cannot continue life in the present state you are in, I am here to tell you that you can and you will. You will because God has given to you a life and the grace to live your life.  God is preparing you for greatness though you do not see it or even feel it right now.  You see, when we humbly accept Christ as our Lord and Savior, the very battles that we face in this carnal world and fleshly body is the taking up of our crosses and no, it is not easy and it was not told that it would be.  When Jesus was paraded through the city on his way to Golgotha he carried his cross knowing that the will be his death for you, for me, for all of us so that we would not have to die.  Read Matthew 27, Mark 15 and John 19.

Some of you may be saying if there is a God why do I have this or why doesn’t he take the afflictions away. Some of you may have been praying for as long as you can remember but see no results.  Rest assured God knows and sees all.  Even though God is a healer He starts in our hearts and minds. In the flesh we do have to see doctors and take medications and though God did not cause the pain and afflictions he does use the afflictions.  I encourage you to study His word on healing.  Study the book of Job and learn how he suffered and the story of how he was restored and rejoice that you too will be restored, in Gods time. Pray and believe that you have what it is you are praying for you see it all starts in our hearts and minds. We can either live negatively because of the issues or we can choose to be the light that Jesus spoke about. As for me, I can only focus on one day at a time because I cannot ever say what a day will hold for me. One day I am feeling good on top of the world and the next, I cannot breath due to the pain that my body faces.  I cry, I get very angry and I get anxious. I even have panic attacks from the anxiousness.  But get this, I refuse to give up. I refuse to let satan win and you too must stand in agreement to what God says about you.  Now this is in no way saying I have no fear, I do. I too do not want to be a burden on my family. I too at times give up in my spirit because of the physical pain I face. I even wrestle with the fact that I am single and will I be blessed with a God fearing husband who will accept me fully in my present condition.  I can only say to all of this to God be the glory.  I can only praise Him because I know in my praise I am being restored. I know that I too am lost with Him.  

In closing, I encourage you to stand, take up your cross and repeat after me I AM LOST WITHOUT YOU LORD and live like there is no tomorrow because in reality, we do not know what tomorrow holds.
Be Blessed

Sunday, September 22, 2013


It has been a while since my last post.  Many things going on. Stay tuned I will be back soon with some enlightenment for your mind, body and soul.

Until then, stay prayed up. Stay in fellowship with our almighty God and know that it is by grace that we live. Please keep me in your prayers as I do the same for you.


Saturday, August 3, 2013

Looking Back To Move Forward

One would say that in order to move forward you can not look back. I disagree. I believe that in order for you to know with out a shadow of doubt where you are going, you must look back. You must look back to evaluate how you've gotten to the place where you are right now. Were those steps productive? Did you win or loose? Did you abuse another to get where you are? Did you lie, steal or cheat your way to where you are right now? Did you learn valuable lessons on life or did you just go with the flow, being a follower or an attention seeker? Most are followers. Many are attention seekers but few are true leaders by example. These are the ones to watch. The ones who are DOING exactly what it is that you desire to do. Those who are in the spots in life productively where you wish to be. Now mind you, you must be careful to not want exactly what they have because the truth of the matter is, you have no clue as the hell they may have endured to get where they are. The word of God tells us in Mark 8:36 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Think on that for a while. My suggestion is know your worth and value. Know your passion as it will and can contribute to a greater good. Don't settle for the status quo, be a part of a click or participate because everyone else is. You must stand apart and alone in your quest for greatness. Not the arrogant type of greatness. But the greatness God has already prepared for you. You see if you are not lined up with Gods will, all of your efforts will ultimately be all works of vanity, which will not last.

When I say stand alone, this does not mean that you can accomplish what you need to accomplish alone. It means that in standing alone you must first know yourself and what your goal is. Use the alone time to prepare and execute and educate. Knowledge is power. You can not allow others to dictate to you what your purpose is in life. This comes from seeking God and His direction, this comes from standing on His promises and not being puffed up by others who don't even know themselves. Especially woman. Most woman are influenced by their woman friends and associates, some positive many negative. Its the generational curses that fuel. Most woman have low self-esteem thus acting out their own personal drama and pain. Wearing a mask. This can be seen by watching how a woman will carry herself, how she speaks, how she dresses, what she allows into her life and who she allows in her life. I know, I was there. But praise be to God that I grew up and took a hard look at myself and asked myself those hard questions and accepted the real uncut raw truth. I messed up. That is knowing yourself and your value. Example, you can not dress like a hooker and expect a man to treat you with respect. So, forgive yourself and others and start again. Do that which is your passion and share that with the world. Its your non-verbal testimony.

The time has been here, not come for us to stand up and really make a difference. We must not jump on the next band wagon moment because it looks good and we must not stay in the familiar of the dark pit that many of us stay close to. Ummm. That is how many millions of people lost their hard earn money due to that get rich quick scheme. See my point. Don't be gullible or naive. Don't take wooden nickles, don't settle or compromise your worth. We must be specific in our quests. Educate yourself on your passion. Seek out a mentor who is doing or has done what you wish to do and learn from them. Keep a journal. Now don't cross your eyes. Keeping a journal is not hard. Its just sitting down in some quiet area and putting down your thoughts a line at a time. Start with baby steps and in doing so you will see the fruits of your labor come to fruition. You will feel the peace in your spirit and when you, you will have that ah ha moment. It will take time, sweat, money and patience to use your greatness. 

If you follow Gods plan, you will succeed because He wants to give us the desires of our hearts. Run the race and don't grow weary in well doing and the well doing is what we all must do. 

Well what are you waiting for?  

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Get Ready

For the past few months, I have been having dreams. Vivid and relational dreams. Dreams about large bodies of water, being surrounded by large bodies of water yet, no in fear. I should have been in fear because I don't swim and I do have a fear of water higher then my knees and even then, I am shaky. I have had dreams of my past and many who were in it. Like how I said “were”. Dreams are a part of all of us but do we know why we dream? Is it some deep emotional story trying to get out and be realized or a dream of caution, a beware. Something or someone beckoning you to press pause, stop or rewind and play? A dream of warning? If you read the story of Joseph in Genesis starting with chapter 27 and ending with 41, you will understand this post.

Genesis 41 is dear to me, here is why. In late 2006 I had a dream about 7 individuals that I know. It was not a warm and fuzzy dream, it was a dream of the familiar, of the pain, of sadness and regret. Devastation. I awoke to tears, actual tears meaning I was crying not only in this dream, I was in that present moment physically shedding tears. Fear was very present in my spirit. Insomnia came to visit and has never left only brought friends. I grabbed my bible and on the first turn I opened to the book of Genesis chapter 41. Seven. Seven fated calves, seven sickly calves, seven heads of good grain and seven heads of withered grain. Moral of that story is, you will have 7 years of good harvest and 7 years of famine, get ready. I say that in my deep Bishop T.D.Jakes voice. Get ready? Ready for what? My realization was death. My oldest Big Sister passed away months later March 2007. This was my turning point. God used a dream to get my attention so that I would be ready.

Get ready. God is speaking in His small still voice to His children, get ready. The media is busy showing millions what is happening in the world. Get ready. Amber alerts blast with the latest abduction, Get ready. Campaigns are starting for the many officials and your voter pamphlets have arrived. Get ready. Companies are continuing to close and many loosing jobs. Homes are still being foreclosed on meaning the homeless rate is still rising. Get ready. The suicide rate is staggering. Get ready.

God can and will use all of these events for His good. To wake us up. But you know, many are not paying attention. They are ignoring the call. Many think that they are living the life, got it made, wearing big boy and big girl pants. I shake my head at the many who's efforts are not on caring for others but selfish thought, word and action all for the sake of something that will fade away with time. Building for good lasts. Many woman no longer value themselves thus being even more devalued by men. Many men use their power, they use their power for negative results or, they don't use their power at all. Many men and woman are clueless as to the good power they have because of genertional curses. Children are being raised by dysfunctional mothers and fathers and these are our very leaders of tomorrow. When will it stop? When will the powerful realize their power and use it for good. To build and not destroy? To save a life and not kill? To eliminate starvation by feeding? If God can create a flood to destroy wickedness with the great flood, what makes you think that He will not do it again? He did do it only the next time he destroyed a city. Is it already starting? Will we be like John the Baptist who asked, Are you the Messiah we've been expecting, or should we keep looking for someone else?" Matthew 11:3.

Get ready. Take inventory of your position in life and use your goodness to build, to contribute good instead of chaos. How will you get ready? Its all in the preparation.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Release Your Vision

Habakkuk 2:2 says this - And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables that he my run that readith it. 

Habakkuk complained to God about the evil and injustice. God basically told him to wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It is not easy to be patient but it does help to remember that God has everything in order and in His perfect timing the vision will be made manifest.

Our lives are not our own. We are all connected to God because He created us. Each action or non action. Each word said or not said. Each move we make is being recorded and for this reason, we must be very careful of our steps. Every step we take in this life will either take us up to the next level or on a crash course downward into a pit, a dark pit. To build a building, you need a blue print. Without a blue print you just have an idea. To see the possibility we must plan and without a plan, we only have a thought. The scriptures are our blueprint to building the kingdom of God.

Bakers have recepies. Builders have tools and materials. Plants need dirt and water to grow and so does your soul. Feed on Gods word.  Your soul can not grow without His vision, without His action or without His purpose.  Patience. Wisdom is key and if wise choices are not made, not only do you suffer, those connected to you suffer as well.

I say to you write your vision, submit it to God and wait. His silence is not a denial. Get wisdom by seeking Gods word over your life. Get understanding and be the light that God has called you to be. Pray. Prayer is your embelical cord to living water. With this water you will never thirst. Remember nothing happens by chance, it is His plan. You can either go your own way and fail or trust God and win. Trusting God and having faith is hard but, we are assured that all good things come to those who wait. Psalm 27:13-14 says this - Yet I am confident that I will see the Lord's goodness while I am here in the land of the living.  Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord. 

So don't rush, don't be so wise that you think you have it all together. Its not you who does the good work, it is God who does the good work in you.  Praise Him in advance.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Food For Thought

I am always amazed that many misinturpret the word of God. This is due to a lack of knowledge and selfishness and an absolute failure to study and apply.  When one gives their life to Christ fully, things must change. You are no longer the person you were before you accepted Christ in your life as your Lord and Savior. You can not continue down the paths with the same actions as of your past before Christ. Romans 12:2 KJV says it this way - And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Does this mean we are perfect? No. What it means is that we actively make changes that represent Gods teaching and wisdom as He instructed.  I heard it said, if God can't go, I am not going. If God won't do it, I am not doing it.  Many want to claim Christ but live unholy lives making the choices to  represent what God calls unholy.  I am guilty of this in many ways and if your honest you would say so too. God wants your honesty, remember He is the all knowing, all seeing God.  We can seek and have forgiveness when we humble ourselves to God and quiet our spirits and our lives and just lay at the feet of the Lord. Our guilt does not disqualify us it slows the process. Each day we are blessed to wake up, thats our chance to try again.

I seek daily to make changes in my character, my attitude, my way of living, my way of speaking and even my way of thinking. I can admit sometimes I have stinking thinking.  Do I get it right all the time? No. Thats why we are given grace all due to God coming down to earth in the form of man to show and proove that which is good and acceptable.  Are we condemed because we fail? No. God knew that we would thats why Jesus gave His life for us on the cross. Yes, He gave his life, it was not taken from him. Again lack of study for many who would say otherwise. 

My ending thought is this, do you fully and willingly represent Christ in spirit and in truth? Are you seeking to be the light that we are as His children called to be? The word of God says, what is a man who gains the world to loose his soul.  To be exact Matthew 16:26 KJV says it this way - For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?

Blessings and Lord Bless. 

Saturday, June 15, 2013


Take a moment and close your eyes. 
Are you where you want to be?
Have you accomplished the things you wished to accomplish?  
Stop thinking now. 
Have you asked God into your heart, your mind, your soul? 
Do this and release yourself to His awesome power. 
God can awaken you and give you the desires of your heart. 
God can give you beauty for ashes. 
Trust Him and dance in your blessing. 

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Pride - The Internal Death

Everyday that God blesses me to wake up I am reminded of His goodness.  Many did not get this realization, they passed away. Their soul and body are no longer present within the living.  To keep this reminder allows me to focus yet again on the tasks that God has set in my spirit and path.  To acknowledge the all knowing, always present God keeps me focused on always doing the work needed to accomplish the ultimate task, building the kingdom of God.  Take for example.  Pride is destructive, I know because I fight daily in the flesh to avoid prideful behavior and thoughts, I don't always win.  Being prideful if not checked will cause failure. Failure of growth keeping one stagnated and stuck.  Children learn from the parent or parents. Our children are a gift from God and when we abuse that gift, destruction and generational curses rise.  I can not for the life of me understand why an adult would physically abuse a child.  What satisfaction can one gain from torturing a defenseless human being with verbal, mental and sexual abuse.  My heart grieves for these innocents.  

There are so many who not allowed to enjoy the blessings of their children or grand children because of pride and selfishness, this must stop. It does take a village. There are many single mothers and fathers who are angry and because of that anger, has taken it upon themselves to exclude and due to that exclusion who suffers, the children. Many benefits are being ignored because pride has crept into the very soul of many who feel that the only way to control is to eliminate and ignore those who want to be a vital participant in a child’s life.  I know because I am faced with this very issue.  But I have learned to not dis pare. I have learned that it is not my responsibility to force another to participate in my life or allow me to participate in theirs so, I pray and speak life into all of the children affected by this insulting act, pridefulness and selfishness.  I habitually ask God to forgive and release His power of protection and grace not just for the offenders but the offended ones. I ask God to bring home all of the missing children who have been taken and trust me there are so many children who have been kidnapped.  I ask God to bring to light that which many think is hidden in the dark because nothing is hidden from God, He knows all things.  I ask God to show me the direction that I should go in doing what I know He requires me to do even if it is behind the scenes for His ways are truly better than my ways and His thoughts are no doubt higher then my thoughts.

Taking another for granted only leads to a major disappointment for the one who is doing that taking because the reality is, if you are not doing what is right by others surely what is right will not be done unto you.  Its the eye for an eye. 

Some are prideful because they do not want to reveal whats inside of them or what trials they are facing for fear of embarrassment. They do not want to allow others to know whats gong on behind the scenes of their life because of gossipers and finger pointers. You know those ones who will help you but talk about you behind your back. I know its  happened to me.  Such as being hungry and not asking for food. Like being in some kind of need and not wanting to ask for help with that need for fear that others will look down on them or worst, ignore it.  Its a learned behavior. How can I say that? Because I know what it feels like, I have been there. When I have been in need, I asked for help and it was ignored or better yet some would know of the need but ignored it and did not offer to help. 

 So when you face that kind of upset you find yourself keeping your stuff to yourself OOOOOOOOOOOOOOO but God. God can make a way out of no way and He knows our every need and because of this He puts the motions in place and your need is met. Be the need of conversation, a smile, a hug, substance what ever the need God can and will provided if we trust and believe. Ain't God good. 

Proverbs says this about pride. Its leads to disgrace  Proverbs 11:2, pride produces arguments Proverbs 13:10, pride leads to punishment Proverbs 16:5, pride ends in downfall Proverbs 18:12 and pride brings one to humiliation Proverbs 29:23.   But humility can eliminate pride. Humility leads to wisdom, takes advise, leads to honor and ends in honor, humility brings one to honor.  All of these characteristics are in the same Proverbs.  Take it upon yourself to seek that wisdom and use it in your life, seek to include and remember what you do unto to others will be done unto you. Ask God to forgive you and offer forgiveness to others. Accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Walk with Him and allow Him to walk with you. Its that simple.  

May the grace of God keep us, guide us and protect us for in the end, to God be all the glory.  


Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Remove The Suckers

Remove The Suckers
Right here right now I am reminded of God and His teaching. I read a devotional this morning and the writer was sharing a day she had where she blew up. Blew up because of life and the challenges that came with it.

Do I blow it? Yes. I blow it with my thoughts, my words, and actions that are not Christ like. I'm reminded of my daily walk, my internal and external fight to be more Christ like. Do I win eve. That's why we need God and His scriptures along with positive people to invest in our lives the way God intended. Two are better than one. Or where two or more are gathered, I am there also. Negative, angry and never happy people can not pour positive fruit (life) into you Money or material things can not pour positive fruit (life) into you. People who have hidden agendas, who are sneaky and inconsiderate can not be good fruit in your life. Though we go through many challenges, we must be mindful not only of others but of ourselves. We must as Gods children look back to Jesus. He came, He walked and He taught. He died and He rose for our sins so that we would not have too, on day 3, Can any human you know do that? Can any human you know heal the sick and raise the dead? Can any human you know feed thousands from 5 fish and a loaf of bread? No. We must not only remember the fruits of the spirits, we must act out those same fruits everyday and all day. We may have to say them to ourselves reminding ourselves and also asking ourselves, am I in the fruit? Galatians 5

You will not always win but if you set your mind to the goal of peace in your life, everyday you can remind yourself and speak life into yourself. You can choose to participate in areas that devalue you and produce no fruit or you can choose to stand on the toiled ground knowing that God is standing with you, hand in hand. Walk and stand in value of who you are and Who's you are. God's word does say, He will never leave your nor forsake you. Do you believe that? Do you trust Him to do what He says He will do. Give you life and not death? Then shake off the suckers, the parasites that drain you. Remove the suckers that you know mean you harm and not good. Remove anything and everything and in most cases anyone and everyone that does not produce fruit. That which is sucking the life right out of you. If you had a vineyard and for years you have been tending, pruning and preparing, putting your blood sweet and some tears in, but nothing is growing and the few grapes you do see are withered and worthless? You would chop it down. Chop it down and start over. That's our life. Its a vineyard and if nothing is growing start over. Remove the suckers from your soil and watch your vineyard grow. Stop, don't go booza, keep reading. This is what I learned about suckers. The suckers I am speaking of are parasites that latch on and attack the roots of vines and suck the nutrients from those roots preventing the grapes from growing resulting in, no fruit. Now that is a sucker for ya, take the life right out ya.

John 15:1-8 NLV reads like this –  I am the true grapevine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch of mine that doesn't produce fruit, and he prunes the branches that do bear fruit so they will produce even more. 3 You have already been pruned and purified by the message I have given you. 4 Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. 5 Yes, I am the vine, you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing. 6 Anyone who does remain in me is thrown away like a useless branch and withers. Such branches are gathered into a pile to be burned. 7 But if you remain in me an my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! 8 When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father. 

Did you have alight bulb moment? I hope it was more like a flood light moment. My encouragement for you today is this.  Examine yourselves. Psalms 39 Make sure all that you do do you do it unto the Lord. Be diligent and determined knowing that you will be rewarded in Heaven. Know that you are a gift from God and your steps are ordered. Know that each trial you face you are being pruned. With each blow up or blow out if you will, you are making way for growth but remember, be angry but sin not.  When you exhale and empty out all the muck you have internalized, you are growing.

I am in INTJ personality to the tenth power. I internalize and analyze almost everything. My thoughts have thoughts so I know what it is like to be fruit-less. The conversations that  I have with myself could result in me being captured and placed in one of the nice designer jackets with the buckles I can not reach. Thank you Lord.

Prune your vineyard which is your life.  Wash the leaves of your soul and give nutrition to the soil by removing that which is not producing good fruit.  Clean up your mind by renewing your mind with God's word. Eat the food that gives abundant life.

Heavenly Father, thank You for your patience towards me when I blow it. Your grace and kindness make me want to show that to others. Help me remember that I represent You in all I do and say. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Friday, April 5, 2013

Thought For The Moment

Its been a while since I had a clear mind to write. I have lost the focus and drive to do that which I know was given to me to do. Many writers say you just have to write and keep writing.  Really? I find it very hard right now to put my thoughts down, the story.  Especially when they are jumbled in my head.  Many voices speaking everything except that which I passionately want to give focus.  Its like Paul when he said, I don' really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead I do what I hate. Romans 7:15 NLT.  No space, no time, no solitude.  I want to get in my car and drive. Drive until either the car stops or I run out of money I don't have in the first place. I find lately that I do not want to come home.  Not that I don't like my home, I do. I just rather be somewhere else. At this moment everything is senseless and meaningless to me and in my spirit.  I almost feel those words of King Solomon.  Meaningless.  Just meaningless.  Read the book of Ecclesiastes. The whole book not just chapter 3.

I am looking back over my life and I can honestly say, nothing has happened the way I would have liked for it to happen. But isn't that God to allow us to make plans and change them for His purpose?  I understand it.  I find myself being stretched more than I care to be.  I want to help but the help has gone beyond.  Let me say this, I have a greater awareness and appreciation for the word "no".  I must increase the usage of that firm yet final two letter word.  I must gain a perspective on where I need my life to go.  The funny thing is, is that I thought I knew.  How do I shift without seeming selfish and inconsiderate? How can I be gentle yet firm while taking back me.  How can I do that and still follow God and His plans for me in His Kingdom?  What I really want to do is kick some things and break up some stuff but, that would cost me money because I would have to replace them. OK so I had a moment.

Wisdom is a powerful thing that God gives when His children listen, pay attention and choose.  Wisdom is that thing that causes your blood to run a little smoother in your veins, the small yet unseen hairs to stand up on your skin.  When you have wisdom and you use it, you are onto something greater.  What is your greater?  Is it more excuses on why you cannot do something?  Is it your ability to not act on that which you know you should?  Or is it the new attitude of living and praising a God Who is right there with you?  Let me say this, no matter what you do or don't do, its on you, its up to you and it will ultimately only affect you, mostly directly.  However, your inability to act does in some way indirectly affect others.  Why? Because you are a part of a program, a play, a performance of a lifetime. God's part made especially for you to play.  If you don't know your lines and if you cannot act your part, the movie is a bust. Many loose something because of you.  So, get it together.  Stop and listen to that small voice, the Holy Spirit.

Progress can only take place when you act, start with praying for wisdom.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Obedience - Option Or Requirement

Yesterday I was seeking God extra hard about some things and like a big boulder crashing through a picture window, I was reminded of Matthew chapter 7:1-5. Its a simple guide for behavior. Ummmm never ask God if you don't want the answer. For Christians the Bible is read, used and if applied will either cause change or stagnation. Many are afraid to be looked at, talked about or judged harshly all for the sake of Christ. Some can not see past the pain and emptiness due to forsaking that which is not of Christ to follow Him and his commandments. Why?. Because we can not do what our old bodies once did, we can go where old bodies once went. We can not do many of the things our old selves did before we gave our lives to Christ. The old man has passed away and behold a new man comes forth, in Christ. A new creation. Washed white as snow, a clean heart. God is good. But we know there are many who want to keep their old man and still hold on to Christ. The word says you can not serve two masters, right?

What does God say about obedience?. Is His commandments an option or requirement?. God gave the Ten Commandments and many more do nots for a reason. Why? Because God is a God or order. God also gave the consequences for disobeying His word. God spoke “Do Not” approximately 97 times, why is that?.  It is clear to me.

Genesis starts showing after God created and said it was good, the consequences of disobedience. Adam and Eve disobeyed God and was banished from the Garden to live a life of pain and hardship. Exodus shows Moses not being allowed to enter the promise land because of disobedience. Saul was threatened with him being removed from the Throne. There is more. The result of not obeying God's word is simple, destruction. The plagues that were inflicted on Pharaoh, lets look at this closely. Now would you want blood to invade your drinking water and bath tubes, frogs, gnats, flies, dead livestock, boils, hail destroying your property, locusts eating up your gardens, total darkness or worse, death of your first born child to come upon you?. I would think not. Darkness who wants that?. Though we are not in biblical times , we are still admonished today. We are faced with diseases that are uncured, people killing people, companies closing causing countless to loose employment, homelessness, starvation, mental crisis and the list goes on.  This list is huge. I am sure Pharaoh had no clue as to the God he was dealing with. He couldn't because he thought he was god. Guess he found out otherwise.

Obeying God is a requirement for all who call Him Lord. If you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you should have no issue with His word. You should be hungry for Him. Will we do it right every time? No. Will we mess up? Yes. God knew. The thing is when God came to earth in the form of Man, He came so that we all might have life and yes, have it abundantly. Its easy in many ways and yes it is also hard because we have to do the work that is required. We just can not talk about it, we have to DO THE WORK. Even the word says faith without works is dead. You can have faith but you also have to work it. You have to change much about who you are and what you do for Him. Just as Jesus said in Matthew to the rich man, go and sell all you have and follow me. That dude was stunned. He had much and he could not see himself without it resulting in him loosing. What is a man to gain the world to loose his soul? Jesus knew the answer.

God said in Deuteronomy 6:5 And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. It was stated again in Luke 10:27 you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength, and all your mind. And “Love your neighbor as yourself” both from the NLT.

The wonderful results of obedience is blessings, grace, mercy, inheritance, heaven.

I suggest we do what He says or like the Father He Is, we will be chastened.  

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Thought Of The Day

On a scale of 1 to 10 my pain level most days are above that. To wake up each morning in physical pain can take a toll on your mind and your heart. One day you would like to just wake up and not feel an ounce of pain in your body so you can start your day on a positive note mentally and physically.  Most days it does not happen.  Your mind wonders will I have to deal with this for the rest of my life, am I trusting God, do I have faith?. I can honestly say NO.  Waking up today I realized that sleep was not pleasent, I tossed and turned.  I got up and moved around searching for comfort.  In doing that through the night means, I had to start over.  Start over trying to get good rest without a strong sedative. Living with arthritus and degenerative disk disease and lets not talk about insomnia, I am reminded of the death, bariul and reserection of Jesus Christ.  Television can only show you what they think Jesus endured and in reading we can only imagine. We will never know for certain what our Lord and Savior indured in those days leading up to his final breath.  
So why am I who have freedom of speech, movement of my limbs, air to breath and let me say again freedom in this life so disturbed right now with my issues? No I am angry and I am exhausted. I move daily in pain unless I take something to mask it. I lay down in pain, unless I take something to, mask it.  My nights are not peaceful or restful and lets not talk about RIM sleep, what it that? It scares me to plan something and commit because I never know how the next day will start out. Getting up for work at 3 AM so I can be at work at 6 AM, well you get it right, its a preperation. 
Praise God for Jesus. The devil is a lie. Though in my physical  body I am in pain and I am exhausted and yes I want to scream from the mountain tops and in the grocery stores.  I will stand up pump my fist and pour out my heart of hearts and grab hold of the fact that I am healed by His strips, I can say it all day long and sing it off key. I will praise God and I will worship Him. I will grab hold of the blood that was shed for me and for all of us and say, this too shall pass.  I know it was the blood, I know it was the blood, I know it was the blood for me.  One day when I was lost, He died upon the cross, I know it was the blood for me. 

Hebrews 8:22-25 NLT
22. Let us go right in to the presence of God, with true hearts fully trusting him. For our evil consciences have been sprinkled with Christ's blood to make us clean, and our bodies have been washed with pure water.
23. Without wavering, let us hold tightly to the hope we say we have, for God can be trusted to keep his promises.
24. Think of ways to encourage one another to outburst of love and good deeds.
25. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, encurage and warn each other, especially now that th eday of  his coming back again is drawing near.

Be Blessed In The Lord

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Iyanla Vanzant: 7 Things You Don't Know About the Power You've Always Had

This post is a powerful reminder of who we are. It also speaks to my spirit especially after my blog post Be Determined.  I did not write the below article but felt a need to share. Be encouarged and be Blessed.

Iyanla Vanzant: 7 Things You Don't Know About the Power You've Always Had

The author and relationship expert offers her insights on the one strength every person in the world possesses.
From: Lesson 25: You've Always Had the Power
Iyanla Vanzant
Photo: George Burns © Harpo Inc.
Many of us think that our power is a tool or a weapon, but, in fact, power is a state of being, the way you see, hold and handle yourself in the world that then determines your experiences. The external world can only respond to the way you hold and handle yourself internally. If you show up as weak, broken, confused and dazed, the world is going to respond to you that way. If you show up as confident, kind, compassionate and loving, then the world is going to respond to you that way.

This is why we have got to understand that you do not have to do anything to have power. That said, there are some surprises when it comes to your power, ones that, if understood, can improve your ability to tap into it:

1. Power is your birthright. Your power goes back to something very simple.

At the highest spiritual level, you are made in the image and the likeness of the creator—whatever you call that creator—the source of life, the source of all things. You are one with that source—the same source that makes trees, tornadoes, sunshine, the ocean, the mountains, people. You have the same capacity, the same inherent light and the ability to create. This is your birthright. You were born with power. No one can take it away.

2. The only thing that can diminish your power is your belief that you do not have it. Repeat this to yourself. Every day.

3. Gold stars do not affirm your power. The way life is designed, we are programmed, conditioned and educated out of our power because we have been programmed, conditioned and educated to please others, to do what others say and to do what others are doing. Here's my classic story: When I went to school, they used to have a board where, if you did your work well, you got a star. There were gold stars, silver stars, green stars, blue stars, red stars. Now, red stars were not good stars. But at least you got a star. Well, when it came to writing, I could never get that little hook on that a. I just couldn't do it. I don't know why. I always got green stars: great effort, just not perfect. It confirmed my belief that I wasn't good enough because I couldn't do what somebody else could. What I know now is that comparing ourselves to others is an act of self-violence, as is living up to the expectation of others or not listening to your gut. These acts are about other people. These acts are all about external validation. Power is you. Power is standing up as your true self.

4. Power is a habit. Everything we do as human beings is a habit. I've heard that it only takes 40 repetitions to install a habit. Most of us have created a habit of being disempowered: We don't ask for this, don't do that, don't say this, don't say that. Instead, we must create a habit that reinforces our personal power. Part of this requires a daily spiritual practice. We nourish our bodies. We nourish our minds. Do we nourish our spirits? The way to remain connected to, conscious of and in alignment with our power is to remain connected to, conscious of and aligned with our source. That can be through mediation, journaling or stillness. We want to empty the mind as often as possible. We want to listen to that still, small voice that's within.

5. Power is most accessible in your worst times, not your best. When your plane crashes and you wake up in the middle of the desert with no food and no water, it doesn't matter how much money you have, how much education you have or how many friends you have. The great philosopher Whitney Houston, whom I love, sings a song: I didn't know my own strength. I crashed down, and I tumbled, but I did not crumble. I never knew my own strength. Very often, when the things that we lean on for strength—the marriage, the money, the image, the name—are gone, that's when we discover our power.

6. It's okay to forget your power. We're all going to have our moments when we get angry, upset, afraid—when we think we just can't do it. But how long do you stay there? How long do you allow the critical voice in your head to condemn you for your choices? How long will you stay in conflict and confusion, or are you able to focus your attention on something greater, grander, bigger, more loving, more powerful? It's about your recovery time. How long do you stay in your humanness before you slip back into your divinity? The ability to make that shift is the sign of being in touch with your power.

7. With power comes the chance for real connection. When you're really standing in your power, every moment becomes an opportunity to share more of who you are with others. If they are being negative, you don't avoid them. Because this is when you might talk with them in a different way, to respond with compassion or love, to find out why they are in that place, or, if they're being hurtful, to respond without being defensive. To simply say: "That is not acceptable in my space. That is not acceptable for who I am." Our experiences in life are designed to give us the ability to grow in our awareness of our personal power. Our choices, then, are about supporting the natural unfolding of that power.

Iyanla Vanzant's most recent book is Peace from Broken Pieces (Smiley Books).

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