Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Get Off Of The Sidelines

Looking back over 2014 I realize that I have been living life on the sidelines. Even though 2014 started out with gusto. I failed. I was going to do this and yes I was going to do that. I started out dragging life by the nose and running. I slowly lost momentum. I stopped in my own tracks and fell on my face. I became hostage to the health issues. I became hostage to the financial issues. I became stand offish to dating or even the idea of dating. I did not do anything I set out to do. I did not write like I promised myself that I would. I did not do a quarter of what I said I would do. I put myself on the sidelines. I hear it again what a friend of mine said, denial is not delay. I also hear that just because you did not finish does not mean that you cannot finish. I no longer cheered for those who were making power moves and shaking off dead leaves.
I no longer had the momentum to run let alone lace up by tennis shoes. I stood in my own sand box and played with my own toys silently daring anyone to cross the edge. I watched from the sidelines at everyone else making power moves. My mouth moved with honest congratulations but in my heart, I was seething. My eyes celebrated and I had participated in the excitement but in my heart, I was angry. Angry at the fact that I was living opposite of what I wanted, needed or desired.  Oh yes I waited for the right time, it never came. I waited for the right amount of money to magically show up out of the blue, bankrupted. I kept telling myself that I am ok and that I will do it. I kept telling myself that I have the passion and the vision, the dream, lies. I was mentally and emotionally lying to myself. I was saying I can but my actions said I can’t.  I failed myself and those looking up to me from their own sideline. Isn’t it funny how many of us can encourage and motivate others but we cannot do the same for ourselves? But we can. We can be our greatest critic or we can be our own greatest cheerleader.

I failed to grab hold of the fact that some things are not meant for me, that God has His own plan for me and until I lined up to His will, I will fail. I failed to seek out those who are doing the same things that I dream of. Oh I said hello and how are you? I said good job and I am proud of you. I played around with some dots and yet I failed to even connect those dots. Fear will do that to you. Fear will sideline you and have you watching and kicking yourself. Does this sound familiar to you?  Sure it does. You have made your lists and ran the race so fast and hard only to end up on the sidelines with no cheering squad clutching your chest gasping for air. You have looked in the mirror and said to yourself you missed the mark. It is ok to realize that somewhere and somehow you lost it. It is ok to say oops I did it again. Yes it is ok to tell yourself the truth. Here is why.  Nothing is hidden from God and yes all things do work for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. There is nothing wrong with making plans and keeping a list unless, you fail to petition God for direction and wisdom. There is nothing wrong with mapping out your course of action and setting the wheels in motion unless, you fail to seek God and His infinite and absolute wisdom. Wisdom will carry you far.

You are not alone in your year in review. You are not sitting on the sidelines all alone, look around. There are many who silently asked themselves what happened. Well here is some sugar for your red kool aid. It is called life and not everything is going to happen according to your plan. Not everyone is going to understand your life’s purpose and not everyone is will to cheer you on. But the one thing you can rest assured in is that you can make it happen with God on your side. You can take baby steps to accomplish all that you set out to do. It only takes tenacity and grit. You have to put your nose to the grind and in doing so you will have to step back from all that has the potential to block your blessings. No dream killers allowed. There is nothing wrong with knowing without a shadow of doubt what works and what does not. You only have to accept who you are and what you stand for. You only have to set boundaries and place limits on yourself and others. Remember when you were in school and you knew that a test was coming?  Preparation. That is the only way you will succeed, with Gods help that is. You can do nothing without the Almighty Gods help. Oh yes you might win some things but you will not win them all. There is only victory in the Lord. I cannot express this enough.

Today take action. Go ahead and review. Go ahead and make those plans and while you are doing so, seek God. Seek Him in spirit and in truth. Be honest with Him because He already knows. As I write this blog, I am telling myself the same thing. I am telling myself I did not miss the mark, I just failed to honestly and fully add that one key ingredient and that is the master plan of God.  His word tells us to lean not on our own understanding but in all of our getting get wisdom. Don’t get me wrong. I am a believer in Gods truth. I pray and seek Him, I still missed it. I study His word and I apply it to my life on a daily basis, I still failed.  Even as I write this blog I am not so sure that I really know what I am doing but the key here is that I am aware of that and that I must do something different. I must be in the game to win the game. Sideline players never win. I must reevaluate the play book and practice. I must cross the line of mediocrity and excuses. I must submit to Gods will completely. The prayer of Jabez comes to my mind. 1 Chronicles 4:10 (NIV) Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” And God granted his request.

God orders our steps my friends not our sitting. We must be active in doing the things of God. God blesses those who are obedient to Him. God can and will give us the desires of our hearts if we are in line to Him. No journey ever taken was easy. God told Abraham to leave what he has known and go into a land unknown. What?  God told Noah to build an Ark and add everything two by two. Job was tested and lost everything. Abraham, Noah, and Job obeyed and God showed up and showed out. If God can do it for them why can’t he do it for you? He will because that is His desire.

Here are a few things that you can do to get you started:

Pray and give thanks to God for all that He has done for you, give Him praise.

Read your Bible a scripture or a chapter at a time along with motivational books that will help you in your craft.

Take a class on your craft. Polish up.

Clear out the clutter and organize your space. If you don’t have a space where you can do your craft, create one.

Exercise. Take a walk, run or like my son says, go lift some weights if you can.

Get a physical and make sure your health is on a positive track.

Drink 64 ounces of water a day.

Attend events that will give you joy and encouragement.

Find a mentor or an accountability partner. Someone you trust.

Work on your craft daily. Start with 30 minutes and increase as you go along.

And last, get plenty of rest. You must be alert and present.

Go ahead and look back, just don’t stay there. What is in the past is just that, in the past. Nothing back there has anything to do with what is ahead of you. Pick yourself up, dust off your shoulders and press. Press forward and know this, there are great things in you and ahead of you.

Get off of the sidelines. 

Happy New Year 2015

Friday, December 26, 2014


Kwanzaa was created in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga, professor of Africana Studies at California State University, Long Beach, author and scholar-activist who stresses the indispensable need to preserve, continually revitalize and promote African American culture.    Finally, it is important to note Kwanzaa is a cultural holiday, not a religious one, thus available to and practiced by Africans of all religious faiths who come together based on the rich, ancient and varied common ground of their Africanness.

*Summarized from -- Maulana Karenga, Kwanzaa: A Celebration of Family, Community and Culture, 2008, Los Angeles: University of Sankore Press (


Kwanzaa is an African American and Pan-African holiday which celebrates family, community and culture. Celebrated from 26 December thru 1 January, its origins are in the first harvest celebrations of Africa from which it takes its name. The name Kwanzaa is derived from the phrase "matunda ya kwanza" which means "first fruits" in Swahili, a Pan-African language which is the most widely spoken African language.
The first-fruits celebrations are recorded in African history as far back as ancient Egypt and Nubia and appear in ancient and modern times in other classical African civilizations such as Ashantiland and Yorubaland. These celebrations are also found in ancient and modern times among societies as large as empires (the Zulu or kingdoms (Swaziland) or smaller societies and groups like the Matabele, Thonga and Lovedu, all of southeastern Africa. Kwanzaa builds on the five fundamental activities of Continental African "first fruit" celebrations: ingathering; reverence; commemoration; recommitment; and celebration. Kwanzaa, then, is:
The Origins of Kwanzaa the First-Fruits Celebration
  • a time of ingathering of the people to reaffirm the bonds between them;
  • a time of special reverence for the creator and creation in thanks and respect for the blessings, bountifulness and beauty of creation;
  • a time for commemoration of the past in pursuit of its lessons and in honor of its models of human excellence, our ancestors;
  • a time of recommitment to our highest cultural ideals in our ongoing effort to always bring forth the best of African cultural thought and practice; and
  • a time for celebration of the Good, the good of life and of existence itself, the good of family, community and culture, the good of the awesome and the ordinary, in a word the good of the divine, natural and social.

The Foundation of the Holiday is built upon the following seven principles.

1. Umoja (Unity) (00-MOE-Jah) – To strive for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation and race. 
2. Kujichagalia (Self-Determination) -To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves and speak for ourselves.

3. Ujima (Collective Work and Responsibility) – To build and maintain our community together and to make our brothers and sisters problems our problem s and to solve them together.

4. Ujammaa (Cooperative Economics) – To build and maintain our own stores, shops and other business and to profit together from them.

5. Nia (Purpose) – To make as our collective vocation the building and developing our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.

6. Kuumba (creativity) - To do always as much as we can  in the way that we can , in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial then when we inherited it.

7. Imani ( Faith) - To believe with all our hearts in our parents, our teachers, our leaders, people and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.

Happy Kwanzaa 2014

Sunday, December 21, 2014

Meet Sheryl Lister Renowned Author

I had the wonderful pleasure of talking with Sheryl Lister. Author of, Just To Be With You published in August 2014. Her new novel, All Of Me will be out early 2015. The warmth and grace exudes in her conversation. Her passion for writing evident.  Talking for over 2 hours, I learned much and feel as though we are kindred spirits.  What I learned also is that you can not let life sideline you from reaching your goal and pursuing your passions. I am pleased to introduce her to you.

Sheryl Lister has enjoyed reading and writing for as long as she can remember. After putting writing on the back burner for several years, she became serious about her craft in 2009. She writes contemporary and inspirational romance and romantic suspense. When she’s not reading, writing or playing chauffeur, Sheryl can be found on a date with her husband or in the kitchen creating appetizers and bite-sized desserts. Sheryl resides in California and is a wife, mother of three and pediatric occupational therapist. 

Book Blurb: All Of Me coming in January 2015 

Declaring a “dating hiatus” was an easy decision for teacher Karen Morris. She intends to unwind and enjoy a luxurious Caribbean cruise without the presence of her cheating ex-boyfriend. But surprisingly all it takes is the deliciously sculpted form of chivalrous businessman Damian Bradshaw to turn Karen’s head and change her mind....

Damian’s friends are determined to save him from his widowerhood—and self-imposed celibacy. But no one is more shocked than Damian when Karen catches his attention and awakens his desire. Something about her ignites an insatiable need that neither of them can deny. The chemistry is inexplicable. But once back on dry land, real life awaits—along with their pasts. Will the promise of a bright future be enough to rehabilitate their reluctant hearts?

I asked Sheryl a few questions and here is what she shared.

1.     Why did you want to be a writer?

I’ve always loved reading and writing and could always be found with a pencil and paper. As I grew up, my love for the written word increased and I dreamed of penning my own stories and letting my imagination run free. So, I guess the reason I wanted to be a writer is because I love to write.

2.     Tell us a little bit about what you’re currently writing?

Currently, I’m multi-tasking with several projects.  I have a holiday novella to finish, edits on my third Kimani Romance novel, and edits on a romantic suspense novel.

3.     What do you enjoy most about connect with your readers?

By far, what I enjoy most about connecting with readers is developing relationships born out of our mutual love of books. Hopefully, some of those relationships will turn into life-long friendships.

Thank you for having me, Sheryl.
You will find Sheryl at www.Amazon.com and www.barnesandnoble.com. You can also visit her website at www.sheryllister.com and at Facebook at www.facebook.com/sheryllisterauthor
Happy Ready

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Almost Over

2014 is almost over. Have you kept the many resolutions that you made in 2013? I stopped making New Year resolutions long ago. I prefer to call them goals because a goal is more attainable. One of the goals I have already initiated is to no longer entertain anyone or anything that is not a positive and consistent spiritual influence in my growing life. There are some weak links.

For many many years I have stretched and snapped back as an empty vessel. My own self fault.  I understand that we chose what is important, or maybe not. I understand the power that many give to excuses while being afraid of the solutions because that means actually doing the unfamiliar or unthinkable. Worried about what others may think. No one is exempt from doing their part in relation to showing and proving to thine own self because there is nothing to ever be proven to another. Becoming a vapor, a breeze, a thought, I am evolving. God said, He is the Potter and I am the clay. I am on the Potters wheel being molded and remolded. Stretched and squeezed. Stretched and flattened. Stretched. My vision is way too vast for me to be a little tea cup, short and stout.

Life is meant to be lived to the fullest and on purpose. Checking and balancing. Becoming an asset and deleting the liabilities and as we value ourselves as an asset we will not attract liabilities. Ya think?  Gone should be the days of living in the pit of self entitlement, self pity, demands, and fault finding. Living in unforgiveness of self and others. Gone should be the days of doing the same things expecting different results and getting angry or devastated about it. Gone should be the days of looking for others to fill a void that only God can fill, have you tried Him? No really, have your really tried Him?  Now is the time to live in the here and now. To fully appreciate this life without constraint. You only get one. Many are content in the nothingness and the unnecessary while avoiding reality. Wasted conversations and actions that lack fertilizer for mature growth. Living in delusion, or is it denial?

We should never become so content that we stop evolving personally, educationally, and spiritually. Until we become united on this front, the attack of the enemy will continue to divide and conquer allowing stagnation and emotional death among the living to continue.

Count me OUT, are you coming?

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Think And Take Action

It goes without saying that we are our own enemy. Oh yes. We castrate every good thing that comes our way. Why? Mental and emotional bondage. Generational curses. Instead of looking forward with excitement and action we look back afraid to let go of the mess, paralyzed.  We have been operating in survival mode. Barely making it. Robing Peter, Jack, Jane, and Paul to make ends meet but, those ends never meet do they? The cycle continues. Are we paying attention?

There is no time like the present to turn it around.  There is no time like the present to clean up our slate. Right now each of us can say to ourselves that we ain’t about that life. Yes I said that. Oh you know what life I am talking about. That blame life. That it’s not my fault life. That the party don’t start until we get there life. That spin cycle that ultimately stops and then starts again. We are not the life of the party. But wait. We are valuable. We are priceless. We are authentic. But we fail to see that because of the rope around our necks that someone else or something else is pulling and using to choke every bit of who we are, out of us.

For the past few years I have been in that cycle. Up and down. Strong and weak. Happy and sad. I have allowed circumstances and situations to sideline me. I have allowed outside forces to control my every thought, action and sometimes words because I get drawn into this thing called life. The media beckons me to react. To emulate the chaos. I want to raise my voice and fists in protest to the wrongs and injustices I see. Wait, I get it. I understand it. But I am not in control of it. I vote to make my written voice heard. I don’t participate in that which goes against my core beliefs. I don’t involve myself with those who have no tangible and proven cause but only a mere existence. Oh yes. I allowed myself to become the silent partner all the while not taking full advantage of my gift, my ability, my vision. That vision that God placed in my spirit for His purpose and not mine.  So you see, it again starts with us.

Motherless and fatherless children will be our leaders and if we do not step up and show them the right side the cycle will continue. The media will continue to show footage of men, woman and children being victimized past, present, and if not changed the future. Oh you know the right side. That side that shows the importance of quality education and positive statistics of high school and college graduations. That side that teaches to save for our future by teaching sound financial planning. That side that teaches our young boys and girls to not be a part of the pandemic of unwanted pregnancies by not allowing them to be a pawn, a victim. That their no does in fact mean no, always. We fail because it’s not familiar. It’s not the in thing because everyone is not doing it. Because we need a man or woman to be known as the Boo. Get out my face with it. We need the latest fashion to be a participant of the in crowd. Will they die for us? Will they give us one of their kidneys to save our life? Will they raise our children when we take our last breath? Think. If we die today, will we have done all we were capable of doing with passion, with hunger and in order? Think.

My message is clear and uncut. I don’t have that ability to sugar coat and be politically correct of the fact that we are failing to teach abstinence and ethic. We are failing to teach that respect of self is more powerful than validation or even vindication. I am just not the warm and fuzzy type to say oh ok, it is ok. Walk over me, use me up and when you are done just toss me back. If you only knew. My message is clear and uncut because I am not exempt from not doing my part. But guess what. I am not afraid of change. I am not afraid of accountability. I am not concerned with who likes me or does not. I am not afraid to be the talk of the town because I stand for something other than that which serves no purpose and value. I am not concerned with those who choose to believe the lies instead learning the truth. I am not afraid to be single because I would rather have peace of mind. I have the same thoughts, ideas and suggestions as the next but get this, I take in to account the one thing that we all have and that is a voice and a choice.
You should do the same. Think and take action.



Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Don't Quit

For many months I have been pushing myself. Pushing mentality, physically, and emotionally. Just a pushin and not going anywhere. I have long since been sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I have allowed and again I say, I have allowed some things to take form in my life and by doing so I have failed God, myself and others.  I have stepped out of the will of God for my life. No, not gave up on God but stepped out of obedience of His word. No, not the obedience of what man says I should or should not do.  Because I am trying to be a fixer and being unable to fix the it, I shut down. I am trying to fleshly solve situations and emotions only God can fix. Oh don't get me wrong, I love and continue to give God praise. I just realized I am in that spit again. That place where you jump out of the box and look back and say, what the Charlie Brown am I doing? Why am I doing that? STOP!

No worries though because see this. No weapons formed against me will prosper because God is my source and protector. God is my provider. He is my all and all. God is no respecter of people but He is a respecter of faith and faith, you know that faith that is the size of a mustard seed? Yeah that faith that passes all understanding. Yes that faith. I am standing boldly and upright at the mountains and brick walls and screaming MOVE OUT OF MY WAY IN THE NAME OF JESUS and BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS I REBUKE you SATAN from my life and my families lives and my friends lives. I speak boldly and with confidence.

So get up if you can and if you can't raise your hands and say it with me, MY God IS stronger than ANY obstical, stronger than sickness, stronger than the no's you may get. Stronger than the many who have and  those who will turn their backs on you. Stronger than those small voices in your head that say that you can't do it. Give it all over to God and leave it. Now, forget what just happened and step into your newness.  Praise Him in advance. Don't quit.

Be Blessed.

Sunday, November 30, 2014

It Starts With Us

Currently the greatest sadness in the media is the verdict or the lack of a verdict in Ferguson, Mo. History yet again is being repeated in mighty proportions. The message is clear with anger uncut and raw for many Americans especially African Americans. City officials are not sure what direction to go in all the while grasping at straws. The pain is unimaginable for anyone who has not experienced it personally, the loss of a child in any capacity.
I raised 2 sons. Raising black children in the 80’s and 90’s had its own set of chaos. Drugs, gang violence, unwanted teenage pregnancies and murder. As a mother I lived in fear and sadness.
Fear of the unknown for my sons even though I raised them with all I had. Fear of the streets being more appealing than the discipline administered at home and the needs that were met. Fear of that phone call telling me that one or both of my sons were dead due to gang violence. Fear because the street in so many ways did have a grasp. Fear that I would either visit the cemetery or the prison. Fear as a mother is like a hot knife jabbed into the very pit of your soul and all you can do is feel its fire destroy everything thing that you knew and understood.  And then there is the sadness.

Sadness that there were no real and consistent role models that walked the talk. Sadness that I could not hold my sons hands through life into adulthood. Sadness that my efforts at love, care, and discipline would be slammed back in my face. I stood tall and strong yet, small and weak. I screamed as I cursed the devil and everything that laid a claim on my son’s lives and future.

Sadness because I was alone and living it alone, so I thought. But God. He heard my screams. He saw my fear. He saw my despair and today my sons are now 34 and 31. No rap sheets, no bullets holes, no looking over their backs at what might happen but looking forward at what can happen. They are making it happen. They are choosing what is important. They are fathers. They can apply, compete and obtain employment because they are educated and can pass a background check. They walked out of the fire just as Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, Daniel chapter 3. God was right with them all the time and at every turn. All due to a mothers never ending prayers and His unfailing love. All because I kept a knee in the backs and was very firm about life. I would always tell them there are consequences for every decision you make be it good or bad, it is on you and it affects others. So choose wisely. I would also tell them the very choices they make will follow them for the rest of their lives. I can only pray that it stuck. LOL I can hear it now, aww mom.   

We are in a fight for our children’s lives and our children’s children’s lives. We must show them without a shadow of doubt that destruction is not the answer to problems. That the choices do not fade away and will not be forgotten. Riots solve nothing but create a whole set of other hardships aside from the injustice felt. Take the time to talk to your children and any other child who will listen and share with them the gifts of the spirit, 1 Corinthians 12. Tell your children and family you love them as often as you can. Teach them that violence begets violence and that no one wins. 

The change does start with us. It starts with an attitude. Will that attitude be negative or positive.

Be Blessed



Sunday, November 16, 2014

A Want Or A Need

You have confused wants with needs. You want better for yourself but you are stuck in a feeling. Stuck on things, people, organizations, and feelings. You think there is no hope so you remain where you are pointing blame and being angry. Being emotionally bound by that which you can break free of.

Look around you. Look within you. There are things, people, and situations that you must evaluate and eliminate. Is that a want or a need? Taking the step will be hard but look on the bright side, you won't be stuck. You will have moved forward one elimination at a time.

Stop allowing insignificant situations to hold you back from your goals. Learn from the lessons by standing the test called life. Stop blaming outside forces for your lack of attention. Stop participating in the games others play all the while changing the rules. Stop giving your God given power away.
The priceless gift of knowing Christ will give you your power. Why? Because Philippians 4:13 says so. Its says, I can do all things through Christ with strengthens me. The key here is through Christ. It does not say through your own efforts. No, because without Christ everything you set out to do will ultimately fail. Oh yeah, you may be riding high for awhile but boom, tragedy happens. Yes. Satan and his band of thieves attack. When you are out of the grace and obedience of God nothing will work for your good.

So get up and get in step with Gods plan and watch Him work it out for your good. Romans 8:28 says, And we know that all things work together for the good to them that Love the Lord, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Is it a want or a need?

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

A Beautiful Mind

 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. 16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. 17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.  Ephesians 6:10-18

Our minds can take us on a trip. A trip that takes us farther than we desired to travel.  Our thoughts are the sum of what we have learned and believe to be true. No one desires to just exist in life. We want to realize the fullness of life. In order to do that we must take inventory. Remove outdated stock. Purge useless notions. We must restock our mental shelves with newness.

It is November and many are getting ready for the onslaught of festivities. There are many who dread this time of the year. I have learned through trial and error that it is not that serious. I have come to realize that the most important thing is to appreciate the right here and right now.  I no longer get caught up in what others are doing or what others think I should do just because everyone else is doing it and because it makes them happy.  That is not living. That is codependency. Codependency is a psychological condition that keeps us in unhealthy and unhappy situations. I have a codependent personality. I learned this at the early age of 7.  Many years later a friend of mine gave me a book by Melody Bettie called Codependent No More, this is where my healing journey began.  Ask.com defines codependency below:

Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.

Absolutely right on point. I could not have said it better myself.  Basically a codependent is concerned with the needs and actions of others and forgetting self.  Once I got that message I made changes. The changes took time and hard work because I had to learn how to love me. I had to open up wounds and allow them to heal correctly. I had to forgive myself and others. I had to let go of people and situations. Many will not do this. The most important thing I had to do was to admit and accept responsibility. This is where some fall off the wagon face first because they refuse to admit or accept any responsibility. It is so much easier to blame others. Stop it. Life is so much easier than the way you are living it.  The joy in knowing is half the battle to reaching a life of fulfillment and true happiness.  

Statistics show that millions of children are mother and fatherless. Drug abuse, gang violence, domestic violence, rape creeps in. Our young girls are looking for love and trust me they will find the illusion not the actual.  Boys are starving for a father figure and guess where they will find it, in the streets.  The cycle is meant to be broken and the only way to break that cycle is to look in the mirror. It starts with you. Just as you learned that behavior you can unlearn it and learn a new.  The next step is seeking out counsel to help you with tools for change. Don't be fooled that you can do it yourself. You can not.

Today take some time to evaluate who you are and what you want for your life.  Do you have children? Ask yourself what lessons are you teaching your them.  News flash, your children are watching you and what you do they will do also.  Go on and pull up your boot straps and turn over a new leaf.  Go ahead scream, shout, stomp your feet, cry even. What ever you do, do it in the positive because those are the results you want, positive. Start the journey to showing up and living. You are worth it. You are so worth it.

Be Blessed

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Get Ready For Happy

I have been on a sail boat riding the waves in my life. Praise God that I know He can calm every storm.
The holidays are upon us. Time to get the house in gear, pull out those decorations, and prepare the greeting cards. 
I know for many of you this time of the year may be hard, emotional, and hair pulling stressful. I know because I struggle to keep a happy face. I lost my mother right before Christmas on December 11th so the Thanksgiving and Christmas season are emotionally draining. Even though it has been over 30 years, I still have a moment of uneasiness. There are times when I just want to stay under my blanket and not move until January 1. I don’t want to hear Christmas music, I dread going to the stores because of the mass production of happy people doing their happy shopping clogging up every parking space. I just want it to go away. Not going to happen with 6 grand-children and all of my wonderful friends who go all out during this time of the year. Happy. Happy. Joy. Joy.
This is the time of the year where suicide is at an all-time high. Many feel lost and alone. Many are homeless and some do not have family or even close friends to share this season with.  I know about these feelings first hand because there was a time during the holiday I wanted to end my life. I wanted to stop the pain and emptiness I felt. But God. He had other plans and I am so thankful that He did.  I am still here. 
I encourage you to take a deep breath. Prioritize and make the holiday season a memorable one. Don’t try to do it all. Reach out to someone you have not seen or spoken with in some time. Maybe select a family to share your Thanksgiving and Christmas with. Prepare a meal for someone. I am sure there is someone in your community that would appreciate your blessings of love and kindness.
My prayer for you is that God’s love shines on you as you shine on others.  Remember, love is other centered not self-centered. 
Be Blessed

Friday, October 3, 2014

Surrender part 2

In my recent post called Surrender,  I shared a book called The 40-Day Surrender Fast by Dr. Celest Oewns. Visit Surrenderfast.com for more information. We are on day 19. Here is what the Lord has revealed to me during this fast.

Since starting the fast my spirit has been challenged. God is revealing confirmations of many feelings I have. One in particular is the church body.  I have seen much and heard lots and I have been fighting the push from God. I have been a member of my congregation every since a teenager, I am now 52. You see, sometimes God will cause you to be uncomfortable in a place you may feel comfort. To get you to clearly see outside of your familiar. Listen to the Holy Spirit. I had a dream this morning. This dream was a setting where many church members were gathered, everyone all dressed in their Sunday best however, I was not. I was dressed unlike them. The Holy Spirit spoke to me saying see them, they are loosing in building the Kingdom. Powerful affect. Why?  It is because man has created too many rules and  guidelines, must be this, can't do that. Arguing and bickering amongst leadership. Many in a posture of entitlement. Allowing money and recognition to be the driving force all the while, loosing in building the Kingdom. We are loosing. Many see and are not interested in The God we serve.

I am being challenged to be set apart, to create a new but old avenue in pointing the lost and broken to Christ. To be a DOER. To show love by stepping into the trenches. Not church as usual but relationship building, Bible teaching not screaming. Being a human comfort spiritually in a realistic approach. In a today crisis approach.

When the Holy Spirit whispered in my ear one Sunday morning see them, you were not meant to fit in,  I got that confirmation to evaluate and accept. This is within the church body and outside.  Though this journey will not end at the end of the 40 days I am blessed and humbled once again that I was, chosen.

Be blessed.

Saturday, September 27, 2014


Every now and then I want to give up. I want to walk out of my door get into my car and drive and not return. Leave it all to the wolves. Disconnect from it all. From the angry faces and genuine smiles. From the empty words and lack luster dreams, the so called American dream. Just give it up. I want to toss in the towel and waive the white flag. I give. I give. All of us are facing some situation or circumstance. No one is exempt from facing hardships. Guess what? That is exactly what God wants us to do. Give it up, to Him. He is waiting with open arms for you to say, Lord I can't do it anymore.

Dr. Celeste Ownens wrote a wonderful book called, The 40-Day Surrender  Fast - The Guide for Releasing Your Plan, Renewing Your Mind, and Restoring Your Life. Let me say this, get the book and work it, work it, work it. The fast consists of surrendering a stronghold or a blessing blocking issue. It is giving up something that is keeping you from God's absolute best. Dr. Owens shares godly wisdom and familiar life issues that we all can relate too. At the end of each chapter there are reflective questions. There is also a companion journal. There is a daily prayer call and this is my favorite. You can also listen to the prayer calls on her website.  She has a panel that shares words of encouragement and let me tell you, I have been truly blessed and encouraged. You can learn more at Surrenderfast.com. Go on over and take a look and get on board. You will not be disappointed. You will be forever changed.

When I committed to the fast that is when satan increased his attack, but God. I am so thankful for this journey. I am seeing clearer, feeling more prominent focus, and most of all I am feeling much closer to God.  I feel the scales falling from my eyes. Acts chapter 9 talks about a man named Saul. He killed Christians. On his way to kill again much like what is happening in Iraq and other countries God blinded him and asked him, why are you persecuting me? Saul was blinded. He had to be led away. In his time of blindness I have to believe that he knew. He knew a change was about to come. He was chosen. I am sure he was questioning why him. It was all a part of God's master plan. Well let me tell you, God will do that to us. He will blind us to get our attention. He will allow hardship to force us to seek Him in spirit and in truth. Most times we blind ourselves with the things we hold dear in our lives and the way in which we live our lives. Addiction, lust, greed, selfishness to name a few are strongholds. The neglect of others, is a stronghold. Anything that you place higher than God is an idol and God says in Exodus 20:3 NLT, Do not worship any other gods besides me. The time is now to step out in faith and step into a whole new way of life. Isaiah 55:8-9. Step into God's master plan. We must look within and acknowledge our mess. Once we do this, we must then admit them and surrender them all to God.

I will not give up or give in. Today, is a new day. Yesterday is gone.  I love the life that I have right now and it is getting better. As I decrease, God is increasing. I am praising God because He chose me for such a time as this.

 God has chosen you too. Accept the call and surrender it all to Him.

Thursday, September 18, 2014


I wish at times that I could go back in time.
Back when honesty and loyalty were the badges of honor. Where respect was shown especially to the elders. Living.
Where we were mindful of the words we said and who we said them too.
Where Sunday was a day for God and home cooked meals around the table. Laughter. Family.
Where woman taught their children instead of leaving the teaching to others, the streets.
Where men were leaders of majesty and power and not hoodlums and goons, animals.
Where woman were not misguided and broken pieces of  abused art but woman of class virtue royalty.

Where flowers were a gift of appreciation.

I wish at times that I could go back in time.
I would have listened to my elders instead of ignoring their words later to learn, they were right.
I would have payed attention when the words preached, all that glitters ain't gold. Why by the cow when the milk is free.
I would have not allowed one mistake to turn into a habit. Habitual.
I would have ran the courses to graduation and tossed the cap. More than once.
I would have allowed God to be the foundations while building an empire state of mind. Peace of mind.
Would have leaned that you did not shine but took my sparkle. Diminished.
I would have changed the habits into a path of legacy. Future freedom.

Is it late now for many I say, maybe not except for the day that death comes snatching the breaths of life. The living. No, there will be a new journey heaven or hell.  Rejoicing or gnashing of teeth.

Since the past is forever gone and today is here. Live it as if it is your last. Love on those you can and pray for everyone.

Stand up and move because you can't go back in time.

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Let Me Introduce Myself

My name is Lynette, I am also called Peace Still for those who are friends with me on Facebook. I also answer to Lyn, Nana and that lady who reads many books. I am 52 years old. I have 2 wonderful sons and 6 beautiful grand children. I live in the Pacific Northwest where the grass is green and water is all around.  I am a Seattle Seahawk fan to the tenth power. Go Hawks!

I am a writer. I have been writing passionately for 15 years. I have penned many words about life, love, and the love that Christ has for us all. I don't claim to be a scholar, but I will seek and conquer that which I need to learn and embrace. I write because God has given me a desire to encourage others to live their best life, in Him and Him alone. My desire is to visit women's shelters, help the homeless and support foster care. I had a wonderful foster mother Sylvia R Jones, may she rejoice in peace. I desire to encourage others to step out of the confines of their lives and see the whole world right in their hands. I write because I have a story to tell be it about my life or the lives I have imagined.

In 2003 I was watching a show called, The Starting Over House where IyanlaVanzant was one of the mentors. Visit her website at iyanlavanzant.com. I had never seen nor heard of her before this, I feel in love. In love with her passion and gift to encourage others to see past their pain and see healing along with living in that healing. Ms. Vanzant spoke directly to my brokenness and self destruction. She spoke into the dark places I thought would never come to light. Through her words I began to see a better way. I had the pleasure of attending one of her forums here in Seattle Washington and I was in the 3rd row, up close and personal. Tears flowing I wanted to run up on that stage and hug her and tell her how much she has helped me through her shows and books. Yes I am a reader too. If you can not read you can not write. I am like you. I cry, I become fearful, I have loved and lost, I laugh, I become angry and I also doubt. I say that I can relate to a bowl of broken glass, many small pieces, shattered. In all of that I know a God who did not give us a spirit of fear but a spirit of love. With that love, I desire to share with others stories that will open their heart. I desire to see others become whole and free from anything that has them in bondage. I can only do that by pointing to Christ with writing and motivational speaking. There are many wonderful authors and speakers who have penned many works of literature. I will be amongst them. I desire will be in the libraries and in places where others are hurting and in need of peace if it is only through words. I am called to write this vision and make it plain. Habakkuk 2:2.

In closing, I pray that you desire to support me in any small way you can. I pray that you will plant a seed and watch it grow through me and the words that I write. Becoming a self published author is no easy feet but I am ready for the adventure. Writing classes and conferences, editors, printers, copyrights, and so much more oh and marketing lets not forget the marketing. Please take a moment to visit my personal page at gofundme.com/8p2tf4.

Thank you for stopping by and spending time with me. If you would like to connect with me you will find me  on Twitter @theuniqueview and on Facebook , search for me by Peace Still (I will add the direct link as soon as I can figure that out) I am not a techy. LOL

I leave you with this quote. I would rather live my life as if there is a God and die and find out there isn't, then live my life as if there isn't and die to find out there is. Albert Camus

Be Blessed

Scream Passion And Take Action

What is your passion? Are you sure of what your passion is? You are not alone. God has given us all a desire, a gift. There are many reasons you could not be aware of your gift. Working to pay your bills, children and the list goes on. Do not fret over what you can't do but instead direct your focus on all of the many things you can do.

Writing is my passion. Writing drives me to think and ask many questions. Writing causes me to look outside of the box. You can do it. Take some time today and ask yourself, what is my passion? Don't let your present condition stop you from seeing your future condition. You were created for a time such as right now. Not when but right now.

Failure only happens when you fail to act. You must take the leap of faith. No, it will not be easy but it will be worth your attention and participation. Get moving.

Celebrate the greatness in you and live your passion.

So I ask you again, what is your passion?

Live the good life.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Personal Reflection

Matthew 5:3 NLT - God blesses those who realize their need for Him, for the Kingdom of Heaven is given them.

To those of you who live with a chronic illness, don't loose heart. Don't feel that you are alone. Though you may not know what each day holds, God does and he is right there with you. He knows your pain because He felt it on the cross. He has a plan.

In the past 3 years my life has been turned upside down with the illness that confuses me. The pain at times is breath taking, literally. Physical movement, missing in action. There are times I want to give up but the God in me will not allow it. There are times when I want to act a straight donkey (picture her bucking). There are times that my faith abandons me. I know God's got it and He has the plan. As Paul says, fight the good fight. We win. We have won. The victory song is already playing. The battle is really not ours, it is His.

Do what you must and what you can. Pray and pray. Cry and cry some more. There is healing in those tears. Take the medication. Rest. Sing praises. Encourage yourself, speak over yourself. Clap your hands in honor of The One True God on the throne of grace. Feed your mind with God's word. The more you eat of His goodness the more power you will have. Now, is the faith. Now in your spirit.

It does not look like it now but you have won by the strips Jesus received and the blood He shed for you and for me.  We. Are. Healed. Claim it and know this too shall pass.

Peace be unto you.

Monday, September 1, 2014

You Matter

This is for you who are hurting in the dark while wearing the mask during the day.

You are a gift but not to all because you represent authority, maturity, grace, and dignity. You have standards and boundaries. You have vision and passion.  You seek and desire wisdom. You want to elevate to the next level, God's best.

But what a shame when you know some only pretend to appreciate you when its convenient for them. Stop them in their tracks. Many suffer in silence due to neglect, abandonment, and affections withheld. Offered lies of love. Don't be one of them. They are showing you how they truly feel about you and what value they place on your presence in their imaginary world. Their fate will be rewarded the same measure they have shown.

Pray and give them over. God can and will BREAK every chain in the name of Jesus.

Take authentic authority and rise. Live in priority and on purpose. Love yourself and remember also that God loves you, unconditionally.

You matter.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Rightful Place

If you put God first in your life everything else will be in alignment. It is written.

Read this slowly and think about it. Make the choice, make changes, and watch God work. There is peace. There will be calm in your spirit and you will handle things that happen in your life so much better. When you have trials and you will, you must go to God first.  Don't crash and burn. Some of us are already smoldering because we go to everyone and everything else when we should go to God first. If you reject God He will reject you. Turn it around. Place God in His rightful place today.  Be Blessed.

Matthew 10 New Living Translation (NLT)

Jesus Sends Out the Twelve Apostles
10 Jesus called his twelve disciples together and gave them authority to cast out evil[a] spirits and to heal every kind of disease and illness. 2 Here are the names of the twelve apostles:

first, Simon (also called Peter),
then Andrew (Peter’s brother),
James (son of Zebedee),
John (James’s brother),
3 Philip,
Matthew (the tax collector),
James (son of Alphaeus),
4 Simon (the zealot[c]),
Judas Iscariot (who later betrayed him).
5 Jesus sent out the twelve apostles with these instructions: “Don’t go to the Gentiles or the Samaritans, 6 but only to the people of Israel—God’s lost sheep. 7 Go and announce to them that the Kingdom of Heaven is near.[d] 8 Heal the sick, raise the dead, cure those with leprosy, and cast out demons. Give as freely as you have received!

9 “Don’t take any money in your money belts—no gold, silver, or even copper coins. 10 Don’t carry a traveler’s bag with a change of clothes and sandals or even a walking stick. Don’t hesitate to accept hospitality, because those who work deserve to be fed.

11 “Whenever you enter a city or village, search for a worthy person and stay in his home until you leave town. 12 When you enter the home, give it your blessing. 13 If it turns out to be a worthy home, let your blessing stand; if it is not, take back the blessing. 14 If any household or town refuses to welcome you or listen to your message, shake its dust from your feet as you leave. 15 I tell you the truth, the wicked cities of Sodom and Gomorrah will be better off than such a town on the judgment day.

16 “Look, I am sending you out as sheep among wolves. So be as shrewd as snakes and harmless as doves. 17 But beware! For you will be handed over to the courts and will be flogged with whips in the synagogues. 18 You will stand trial before governors and kings because you are my followers. But this will be your opportunity to tell the rulers and other unbelievers about me.[e] 19 When you are arrested, don’t worry about how to respond or what to say. God will give you the right words at the right time. 20 For it is not you who will be speaking—it will be the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.

21 “A brother will betray his brother to death, a father will betray his own child, and children will rebel against their parents and cause them to be killed. 22 And all nations will hate you because you are my followers.[f] But everyone who endures to the end will be saved. 23 When you are persecuted in one town, flee to the next. I tell you the truth, the Son of Man[g] will return before you have reached all the towns of Israel.

24 “Students[h] are not greater than their teacher, and slaves are not greater than their master. 25 Students are to be like their teacher, and slaves are to be like their master. And since I, the master of the household, have been called the prince of demons,[i] the members of my household will be called by even worse names!

26 “But don’t be afraid of those who threaten you. For the time is coming when everything that is covered will be revealed, and all that is secret will be made known to all. 27 What I tell you now in the darkness, shout abroad when daybreak comes. What I whisper in your ear, shout from the housetops for all to hear!

28 “Don’t be afraid of those who want to kill your body; they cannot touch your soul. Fear only God, who can destroy both soul and body in hell.[j] 29 What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin[k]? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. 30 And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. 31 So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.

32 “Everyone who acknowledges me publicly here on earth, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. 33 But everyone who denies me here on earth, I will also deny before my Father in heaven.

34 “Don’t imagine that I came to bring peace to the earth! I came not to bring peace, but a sword.

35 ‘I have come to set a man against his father,
    a daughter against her mother,
and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
36     Your enemies will be right in your own household!’[l]
37 “If you love your father or mother more than you love me, you are not worthy of being mine; or if you love your son or daughter more than me, you are not worthy of being mine. 38 If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine. 39 If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.

40 “Anyone who receives you receives me, and anyone who receives me receives the Father who sent me. 41 If you receive a prophet as one who speaks for God,[m] you will be given the same reward as a prophet. And if you receive righteous people because of their righteousness, you will be given a reward like theirs. 42 And if you give even a cup of cold water to one of the least of my followers, you will surely be rewarded.”

Saturday, August 9, 2014

Lord, I Thank You

As I sit here today thanking God for another year. There are only a few things I passionately desire. Family unity and unconditional love. I don't want them forced. I want them graciously free. I have seen a lot and been through much and for all of it I am humbled. Through life's lessons I have learned the measure of life. Through the many sayings of my elders I have kept watch and stayed prayerful. Through many closed doors and failed attempts, I have learned my value and what is truly important. Nothing has been wasted.

My heart has been shredded but has long been mended. My self-esteem at many points had been depleted but the cup now runs over. I have given up the best parts of me to the undeserving but God made the deposit of restoration.  I have compromised Gods best for satans lies and I believed the lies of many. Thank God for His word of truth that is not a vessel of lies but of love and freedom. Thank God for his healing beauty for many ashes. Thank God for His unchanging hand and His consistent whisper.

We only get this one life and this one body. At all cost we must be positively diligent. There will be only a few do-overs. The roads we travel will either be the lessons or the warnings.  This I know, if God calls me today I am ready. If God allows me to stay, I will rejoice in knowing it is not yet my time, that I have more to do and more to give. In that, I will continue to do that which He has orchestrated me to do and I will do that thing knowing tomorrow is not promised. I walk with no regrets but forgiveness of myself and others. I can only give emotional freedom. God is the only one Who can give the ultimate freedom.

For all of it Lord all praises go to You. Thank you for year 52.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Standing On The Top

It is 6:00 am and I am at my desk getting ready to start the work day and a song by The Temptations called ”Standing On The Top” rang in my head. Talk about a blast from thepast. The song is from 1994 and it was a major R&B hit.  I love the classic.

When you hit a snag in your life, how do you react? Our bodies react to stress, joy, pain, and anger. You name it our body will react.  The brain is its own function with electrical currents that send signals throughout the entire body. From the smallest hair follicle to the smallest toe nail something will react.  Stick a needle in your finger and no doubt your body will flinch. Try it.

We are all in a situation or circumstance, this is a part of life and the master plan. We also have choices on how we will react to those situations and circumstances.  2 Timothy 1:7 in the Amplified Bible says: For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and a well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.
Society has conditioned many to complain, gossip, have a negative attitude and often times self-medicate.  1 Timothy 5:13  AMP - Moreover, as they go about from house to house, they learn to be idlers, and not only idlers, but gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not say and talking of things they should not mention.

Now these are the  people that do not fully understand the call of God on their lives because they only see the problems and not the solutions that have already been given and accomplished with Jesus and his death, barriel, and resurrection.  Many do not understand scripture because they think well, “if I read one or two of them I am good”. No. Many also think that they can live their lives in any fashion they choose and God will be pleased, absolute falsehood.  Deuteronomy is a good reminder if you need some in your face word about what God will and will not do when it comes to obedience and disobedience of His word. Many read the old testament and say well “we are not accountable to the old law”. Incorrect. All of God’s word is teaching. God will allow you to roam the desert even eat a little sand, fall into the mud of sinful situations all the while watching and sending His Holy Spirit to poke your spirit. But the choice is yours to either fully accept Him as your Lord and Savior or not.

The Bible clearly says you cannot serve two masters you will hate one and love the other.  Matthew 6:24 AMP - No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by and be devoted to the one and despise and be against the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions, or whatever is trusted in).

The Bible also says when you accept Christ as your Lord and savior, old things are passed away and you are a new creation in Christ. Revelation 21:4 AMP - God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and death shall be no more, neither shall there be anguish (sorrow and mourning) nor grief nor pain any more, for the old conditions and the former order of things have passed away.

 This means what you used to do that was not in Christ, you stop. What you used to say that is not of Christ, you do your best to stop. Where you used to go, you stop. It means you die daily to your desire and live in Christ and His desire for you.  It also means that some people will be removed from your life because these people are not meant to go into your future.  This will be a hard one for many because most us are attached to people, sometimes in good ways and most times in bad ways.  Everyone that is in your life should be helping you grow, especially helping you to grow in Christ. These people should not be a distraction from the call that God has on your life.  Oh yes, you will get that “oh you are holier than thou now” those people should be the first ones you excuse yourself from.

John 10:10 AMP - The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).

Satan comes to kill and destroy and what better way to destroy your walk with Christ than to have his bandits sit in your presence and distract you, reminding you of the things you are turning away from that no longer serve the purpose, Gods purpose. It is not a piece of cake. It is the conscious effort daily to say Lord, wash me, cleanse me, here I am use me. And guess what He will. He will always be there for you and He will always forgive and love you. But His word cannot lie. So do not take Gods word lightly. Believe what He has said. Trust that His word will not return void and trust that God is not a man that He can lie. This is not a fire and brimstone reminder. This is a reminder that God is love. And to live in Christ is accepting His love.

Now that you are aware of your responsibility. Stand on the top of who you are and to Whom you belong . Stand on Christ. Stand in victory. And when you have done all you can, continue to stand.

Ephesians 6:13 AMP -Therefore put on God’s complete armor, that you may be able to resist and stand your ground on the evil day [of danger], and, having done all [the crisis demands], to stand [firmly in your place].

Be Blessed

Sunday, August 3, 2014


Being happy is a choice. No matter what you have been dealing with, you have a choice. Sad thing is many fall into the victim of the "woe is me" box. Guess what? You are not alone. Many want to call someone and complain but never have or even want a solution. God is your source.

You are the only one responsible for how you choose to feel. No one can bring you happiness unless your heart and mind are open to receive that happiness. God is your peace and comfort.

So for today, step back out of your putty box and smile. Why? Because what ever it is that is going on right now one thing is for sure, you are not dead. You are alive in Christ.

James 1:2-4 NLT Dear brothers and sisters, whenever trouble comes your way, let it be an opportunity for joy. For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything.

Count it all joy.

Saturday, July 19, 2014


I am learning that many take God's word for granted, they misconstrued, and ignore it until hardship happens. Many ignore the fact that God is a god of order and obedience. Turning our lives over to Christ and accepting Him means we turn away from the old fleshly nature and behaviors and walk upright. Many believe that unequally yoked is only related to marriage, it is not.

Many only read a few scriptures on Sunday and dust collects during the week. Some do not take their Bible to church relying on the messanger. Just as we must eat daily food for physical nourishment, we also  must eat daily God's spiritual word to have a sustained life. We must die daily. We must decrease so that He can increase. Many are truly called but only a few will be chosen. God can use anyone but His word is clear about what He hates.

What I do understand is that most care more about how humans will accept and treat them more than how God feels and what He says. Sad state of affairs. Not all that say Lord Lord will enter. One day at a time be actively obedient. The opposite is hell.

Be Blessed

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Awesome You

Do you find yourself spinning out of control? Have you looked at where you are and wondered what happened? You are not alone.

We set goals and create a multitude of to-do lists only accomplishing to cross out a few. We become discouraged and start to speak self defeating words into our spirit. Stop. You are right where you are supposed to be. Look at it as if you have been delayed for a time.

I have felt stuck for a few months but today I have clarity. I am rejuvenated. I know my purpose because I know who I am and Who's I am. The Father knows best the plans for me and you. Nothing catches Him by surprise.

So pick yourself up and keep moving forward. Stop beating yourself up over yesterday and celebrate in your today. You are a gift. Unwrap and marvel at the awesomeness of you.

Be Blessed

Saturday, June 21, 2014

The Journey

Today I spent time in thought. I tossed around in my head and heart my purpose. Looking out over the waters of Chambers Bay in University Place, Washington pictured above, I walked for 2 miles starting at 6:45 AM and I spoke with God and I listened. I praised Him and thanked Him. I watched as the trees moved with the soft morning breeze. I listened to the birds sing their melodies. I heard Him and I felt peace. I know the plans I have for you, I heard Him. Trust Me, I heard Him. My grace is sufficient, I heard Him.

Too often we busy ourselves with menial tasks that only take us away from the goal, the purpose, His purpose. We allow outside forces to push us down and we loose power.  We become frustrated and angry then we give up.

Stop. Settle down and listen to the Master. The Manufacturer of who you are has it mapped out. Surrender your will to His and He will give you the desires of your heart, but you must first surrender. I know how you feel. Exhausted and burnt out. I too many times speak defeat into my spirit, but God in His infinite wisdom always reminds me that this battle is not mine, but His. Humble yourself or God will allow situations to cause you to be humbled. Surrender.

I encourage you to reevaluate where you are and where you desire to go. Read and meditate on God's word, the spiritual food for the soul. Submit your cares and requests to God, pray, and then listen. Get quiet. Line yourself up with His will and you will be soaring like an eagle.

Be Blessed

Thursday, June 12, 2014

In Memory of Ruby Dee A legond

In memory of Ms Ruby Dee. I post this video of a poem she reads.  She ia celebrating now with her Ossie Davis.


Friday, June 6, 2014

Mindset of Defeat

In all of the countless conversations that I have with others, the verbal implication is defeat. Defeat due to finances. Defeat due to relationships. Defeat due to loss of employment. Defeat due to past unresolved situations. Defeat because of what someone said or did. Defeat. Defeat and more defeat. So many have accepted the trials they are facing as final walking around with negative attitudes saying, this is who I am. Talking in such a way that it can make many not want to deal with them and if mentioned, they say well if you don’t like it don’t talk to me. This is sad and depressing. Defeat.

We do not have to live our lives this way. We do not have to allow the circumstances of life to form who we become negatively. We do not have to lie to ourselves and others that the way we act is who we are. We do however have the ability to live and speak positively.  Just like we choose what we will or will not eat, we also have the ability to choose the negative attitudes or positive. Nothing in our lives remain the same unless we want it that way.  The actions we take and the words we say, we own them be it good or bad.

I am reminded daily on how I can improve the quality of my life just by changing something as small as my thoughts and words. I am learning that it is best to remain silent and not waste my time arguing with a fool who refuses to listen to the wisdom og God's word. I am more so reminded as God's servant that others watch and listen to me. In the book of Proverbs you will find valuable life training to apply to your everyday life. You will see a lot mentioned about how we should speak and not speak even who we should speak too because words can either give life or take it.

No one wants to be around someone who is always negative, always angry about something and has nothing nice to say. No one wants to be around someone who cannot lift spirits and bring a smile. No man wants a woman who is just evil all the time for no reason. No woman wants to be involved with a man who does not know how to treat others. Makes for bad company. I would rather be alone then to just deal with anyone or anything. I have read somewhere, if you don’t stand for something you will fall for everything.  Put your foot down and change lanes.

Be a positive influence. Don't make excuses for your bad behavior.  Save lives and don't destroy them.  Are you making excuses for bad behavior? Have you allowed life’s circumstances to shape you into someone who is not likable but tolerated? Are you blaming others for your own actions or lack of action? You can fix it with God’s help. Ask Him to search you, forgive you and wash you.  He can place your feet on solid ground.

Be better today than you were yesterday.

Saturday, May 31, 2014

Sin And Consequences

Sin have consequences. You can not sin and be a Christian. One of my Sisters in Christ contacted me about this statement so I am going to clarify what this means. I never want to misdirect or misinterpret. I am a messenger and can only point you to Jesus and the Word. Study to show yourself approved.

1 Corinthians 6:9-20 NLT

Don't you know that those who do wrong will have no share in the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge (practice) in sexual sin, who are idols worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexual, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers, and swindlers - none of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God. Paul goes on to teach that those who have been washed, those that have turned away from sin, set themselves apart for God thus having a part in the Kingdom.

Jesus taught this in Matthew 7:21-28 
Galatians 5:19-26 also reminds us. I do encourage you to read the complete chapters.

The clear point I want to make is yes, we can be a Christian and sin because we as God's children will be visited by the Holy Spirit who will prick our hearts thus causing us to repent and turn away from that sin, we confess our sin to Him and ask for forgiveness which we receive, even before we ask. This does not relate to those who habitually and continually sin by the constant disobedience, rejecting if you will God's commandments.

The key here is the sins many continually practice. The knowing sin as if it is hidden from God, which can not be because God sees, hears, and knows all. Asking for forgiveness for that sin but knowingly going back and committing the sin again and again and again. Do you see the point?

In closing. God wants nothing more than to forgive and bless you. We have all fell short and will continue to fall short in many ways and that is why we must always make changes in our lives to remove any possibility of sin that can cause us to fall even further. Will we be perfectly free from sin, no. This is why the Word of God says meditate and pray, do not be unequally yoked and many more "dos" and"do nots".

Disobeying God is never a good thing because there will be consequences even though there will always be forgiveness.

Be Blessed